Hi Laspnda and welcome to the forum, so sorry for your need to be here. I understand the pain of this, my 37 year old has been on meth for awhile now. So sorry for your aching momma heart. It is a tough road to be on, when our children grow into adults and make horrible choices.
This is a good place for you to be dear, many of us are going through similar trials, but are at different places along the journey.
Please continue to post and share. You might want to add a bit of information to your profile, then it shows up under your posts, and people will have a better idea of your situation, without having to go back to your original post.
Most of us have had our adult children living in our homes at one time or another, while they have been using. We try and try to help, but in the long run a lot of us have suffered along with the addiction, because we see what is happening to the kids right in front of us. Not only this, we begin to feel the effects, too, as their using drugs transpires to using us.
I have had money stolen from my wallet, heirloom jewelry stolen, toiletries gone, the list goes on.
I am glad you are here asking for help. It is a problem that no one should face alone. I am sure you have read some of the stories written here and may understand that helping your son, is not helping him. Anything we give to our drug addicted adult children, enables them to continue using. Using drugs, and using us. It is a vicious cycle for everyone involved. So, what to do?
You are here, that is a good start.
There is an article on detachment on the P.E. forum I have linked it for you below...
http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/
This article helps us to see how we are not helping our beloveds, by helping them.
There begins the journey to try to bring some sanity back into your life.
There are also groups like alanon or naranon that help folks like us swim the perilous seas of our adult children's choices. When we are so downtrodden from this experience, there are lights shining out there that we can go to for answers and guidance. I went to a therapist for help early on, it was good to be able to talk to someone professional, confidentially. If you have a faith and prayer is your way, that is also very consoling to give your woes to a higher power.
You have come to the right place here, to share your story and receive comfort from others and their opinions and stories. None of us are experts here, just warrior moms and dads who have been where you are. We are all at different places along the way, but we do know the intense pain and heartache of this.
Please know that you have value and worth and a life to live beyond this.
Take it one day, one step at a time and know that you are not alone.
Please stay with us and let us know how you are doing.
More will come along.
(((HUGS)))
leafy