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Please help me my 38 year old son lives in our house and is on meth and heroin i need some help
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<blockquote data-quote="Nature" data-source="post: 682463" data-attributes="member: 19011"><p>Welcome Laspnda,</p><p></p><p>I wish there were a magical potion to give to our loved ones to "fix" it but sadly none exist. Like Leaf mentioned above, we have the aching Mama/Papa hearts in common and a club none of us wished to join. She is right in saying by helping them we aren't helping them, yet we must all take part in a journey to get to the place where we stand strong and firm and no longer enable them. </p><p>That winding path is hard for us to reach - especially loving mothers as we truly believe that we can fix them by loving them more, helping them more, caring for them ....yet we all come to the conclusion that we must let go and let them walk their own path.</p><p>I realize now after many years of convincing myself that loving them unconditionally meant never giving up on them. I had to walk the path that so many others walked before me to see that loving them unconditionally does not not mean enabling an adult child. To be the rescuer, the helicopter mom and the enabler was not helping in the long run. Enabling them also means more years of prolonged drug abuse - that in order for them to stop and seek help (which they must eventually do in order to get clean) they are asked to leave the family home. My doctor once told me that my son was no different from an addict on the street except he had nicer clothes and a roof over his head which in turn made it easier for him to continue his drug use. Life has to get tough for them to perhaps see the light that they should seek help. I know I'm probably telling you things that you are at this time unable to do or couldn't imagine. It's coming from me with compassion and with knowledge and I wish I could hug you at this moment and tell you I understand how you feel. You will find comfort in this forum as none exist where we truly know what it's like to walk in your shoes.</p><p>Take Care of Yourself</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nature, post: 682463, member: 19011"] Welcome Laspnda, I wish there were a magical potion to give to our loved ones to "fix" it but sadly none exist. Like Leaf mentioned above, we have the aching Mama/Papa hearts in common and a club none of us wished to join. She is right in saying by helping them we aren't helping them, yet we must all take part in a journey to get to the place where we stand strong and firm and no longer enable them. That winding path is hard for us to reach - especially loving mothers as we truly believe that we can fix them by loving them more, helping them more, caring for them ....yet we all come to the conclusion that we must let go and let them walk their own path. I realize now after many years of convincing myself that loving them unconditionally meant never giving up on them. I had to walk the path that so many others walked before me to see that loving them unconditionally does not not mean enabling an adult child. To be the rescuer, the helicopter mom and the enabler was not helping in the long run. Enabling them also means more years of prolonged drug abuse - that in order for them to stop and seek help (which they must eventually do in order to get clean) they are asked to leave the family home. My doctor once told me that my son was no different from an addict on the street except he had nicer clothes and a roof over his head which in turn made it easier for him to continue his drug use. Life has to get tough for them to perhaps see the light that they should seek help. I know I'm probably telling you things that you are at this time unable to do or couldn't imagine. It's coming from me with compassion and with knowledge and I wish I could hug you at this moment and tell you I understand how you feel. You will find comfort in this forum as none exist where we truly know what it's like to walk in your shoes. Take Care of Yourself [/QUOTE]
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