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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 686671" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>No. You do not need a lawyer but I would want to know the potential consequences of an action I took before not after.</p><p></p><p>For example, by calling CPS/Child services, they could step in and take the younger kids. It is possible. I would want to know the potential repercussions first, not after.</p><p>The thing is, decisions and actions we take while in the past can haunt us our whole lives. For example, I know a woman who gave a child up for adoption who never got over the regret as long as I knew her. I know women haunted by abortions. Others do not think twice. </p><p></p><p>I say, do everything now, to understand what the consequences will be. For your son, you, the rest of the family--the potential disaster can arrive now, or years hence.</p><p></p><p>If you give up your son, how will your other children feel one day when they understand? Will they feel that they could be given up, too?</p><p></p><p>My son is adopted. I spoke some time back of giving up a dog of ours, who I love. Romy. My son said: How can you give him up? He is yours. This is his home. You have had him for too long to turn your back on him. </p><p></p><p>I sensed he was talking about himself.</p><p></p><p>He is not a child, I replied. </p><p></p><p>Yes it is the same, said my son. </p><p></p><p>What I am suggesting is to think through and investigate all options and think through the consequence for you, your son, your children and the family, both now and in the future. Yours is not an easy situation to say the least, but there may be answers. It is to search for them.</p><p></p><p>I know what I would do is to try to find professional help that was that--help. What you have right now is not helping you. </p><p></p><p>If you are a spiritual/religious person I might speak with a pastor/priest/rabbi, if there is somebody with whom you feel close and trust.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 686671, member: 18958"] No. You do not need a lawyer but I would want to know the potential consequences of an action I took before not after. For example, by calling CPS/Child services, they could step in and take the younger kids. It is possible. I would want to know the potential repercussions first, not after. The thing is, decisions and actions we take while in the past can haunt us our whole lives. For example, I know a woman who gave a child up for adoption who never got over the regret as long as I knew her. I know women haunted by abortions. Others do not think twice. I say, do everything now, to understand what the consequences will be. For your son, you, the rest of the family--the potential disaster can arrive now, or years hence. If you give up your son, how will your other children feel one day when they understand? Will they feel that they could be given up, too? My son is adopted. I spoke some time back of giving up a dog of ours, who I love. Romy. My son said: How can you give him up? He is yours. This is his home. You have had him for too long to turn your back on him. I sensed he was talking about himself. He is not a child, I replied. Yes it is the same, said my son. What I am suggesting is to think through and investigate all options and think through the consequence for you, your son, your children and the family, both now and in the future. Yours is not an easy situation to say the least, but there may be answers. It is to search for them. I know what I would do is to try to find professional help that was that--help. What you have right now is not helping you. If you are a spiritual/religious person I might speak with a pastor/priest/rabbi, if there is somebody with whom you feel close and trust. [/QUOTE]
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