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Please help with our decision to bail 36 yr old son out of jail..
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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 682396" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Welcome Change. ...and yes, a welcome change. this is truly a soft place to land without judgement. Many of us are, have been, will be, where you are, we do "get it". </p><p></p><p>Eventually, they must "do for themselves". He's 36, if not now, when? It may be good for him to be in jail, sometimes that's better than the risks associated with the life of addiciton/mental illness. It will give him time to think about where his life has gone. I have felt my son was safer in jail than on the streets, or maybe I just liked knowing where he was living. He wasn't impaired in a car risking others' lives or beaten up lying outside. As I write this, I am stunned to think "who ponders <em>these </em>choices with their own kids?" We do. You and I and so many other parents who expected and so wanted the best for their kids only to have them go off the rails into the dark.</p><p></p><p></p><p>All those feelings also so understandable. I find it much better when I can turn my thoughts away from it all-take a walk or whatever. Doing something for others who need or appreciate it, when I know my assistance to my son is not beneficial to either of us, is a good trade. </p><p>Today do what feels right for you. You're stronger than you think.</p><p>I'll continue to look to God with you, knowing He cares what you go through, He knows your son's needs also. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 682396, member: 20054"] Welcome Change. ...and yes, a welcome change. this is truly a soft place to land without judgement. Many of us are, have been, will be, where you are, we do "get it". Eventually, they must "do for themselves". He's 36, if not now, when? It may be good for him to be in jail, sometimes that's better than the risks associated with the life of addiciton/mental illness. It will give him time to think about where his life has gone. I have felt my son was safer in jail than on the streets, or maybe I just liked knowing where he was living. He wasn't impaired in a car risking others' lives or beaten up lying outside. As I write this, I am stunned to think "who ponders [I]these [/I]choices with their own kids?" We do. You and I and so many other parents who expected and so wanted the best for their kids only to have them go off the rails into the dark. All those feelings also so understandable. I find it much better when I can turn my thoughts away from it all-take a walk or whatever. Doing something for others who need or appreciate it, when I know my assistance to my son is not beneficial to either of us, is a good trade. Today do what feels right for you. You're stronger than you think. I'll continue to look to God with you, knowing He cares what you go through, He knows your son's needs also. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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