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<blockquote data-quote="Janna" data-source="post: 67093" data-attributes="member: 2737"><p>Hey Kitty,</p><p></p><p>I'm online alot, especially @ Myspace because of the Child Bipolar site, so if you want to ever message me there, feel free.</p><p></p><p>I didn't read all the responses, so I'm sorry if I'm redundant, although knowing how I am, I doubt that will be the case.</p><p></p><p>Here is my opinion. I don't mean to offend you, so if that happens, I apologize.</p><p></p><p>First off, I don't do Ross Greene. Keeping the room clean is obviously not a basket C, it's driving you insane. You want the room clean.</p><p></p><p>The day she was to go swimming ~ I would not have let her go.</p><p>I would not give her anything to eat in her room, ever.</p><p>I would take every single thing in that room that she enjoys and put it away and allow her to earn things, bit by bit, as she earns them back.</p><p>The patio? You told her she couldn't go out. The answer is no, it's no, not yeah, ok.</p><p></p><p>You need some help to not only teach her how to listen and respect your rules, but how to get her on the right track so she is doing what you want. I don't know if you can try parenting classes, or Wrap Around Services or something in your area.</p><p></p><p>The road you're on is not going to get better. Doesn't matter what medications you use, medications don't make a kid listen.</p><p></p><p>If this was me, I'd spend a morning cleaning the room. I'd remove EVERYTHING but the bed, dresser and clothing. EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DO NOT LET HER HAVE FOOD IN THERE. Period. There is no debate. No discussion. It's a rule. End of story.</p><p></p><p>Also, spend time with her, in the room, showing her EXACTLY what you want picked up, cleaned, up, how and when. Then she can't sayh she doesn't know how, she doesn't understand, whatever.</p><p></p><p>Give her a chart so that she has to pick up daily. Then, as she follows the chart and picks up, you give her stuff back. If she doesn't follow the chart, she gets nothing. </p><p></p><p>Yeah, this is harsh, but you know what, all advice I give is what I've done with my kids. And I had, at one time, THREE kids that didn't listen to a damn thing I ever said. And now, when I tell them to do something, ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL of them, including Dylan, they know they better move.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Janna, post: 67093, member: 2737"] Hey Kitty, I'm online alot, especially @ Myspace because of the Child Bipolar site, so if you want to ever message me there, feel free. I didn't read all the responses, so I'm sorry if I'm redundant, although knowing how I am, I doubt that will be the case. Here is my opinion. I don't mean to offend you, so if that happens, I apologize. First off, I don't do Ross Greene. Keeping the room clean is obviously not a basket C, it's driving you insane. You want the room clean. The day she was to go swimming ~ I would not have let her go. I would not give her anything to eat in her room, ever. I would take every single thing in that room that she enjoys and put it away and allow her to earn things, bit by bit, as she earns them back. The patio? You told her she couldn't go out. The answer is no, it's no, not yeah, ok. You need some help to not only teach her how to listen and respect your rules, but how to get her on the right track so she is doing what you want. I don't know if you can try parenting classes, or Wrap Around Services or something in your area. The road you're on is not going to get better. Doesn't matter what medications you use, medications don't make a kid listen. If this was me, I'd spend a morning cleaning the room. I'd remove EVERYTHING but the bed, dresser and clothing. EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DO NOT LET HER HAVE FOOD IN THERE. Period. There is no debate. No discussion. It's a rule. End of story. Also, spend time with her, in the room, showing her EXACTLY what you want picked up, cleaned, up, how and when. Then she can't sayh she doesn't know how, she doesn't understand, whatever. Give her a chart so that she has to pick up daily. Then, as she follows the chart and picks up, you give her stuff back. If she doesn't follow the chart, she gets nothing. Yeah, this is harsh, but you know what, all advice I give is what I've done with my kids. And I had, at one time, THREE kids that didn't listen to a damn thing I ever said. And now, when I tell them to do something, ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL of them, including Dylan, they know they better move. [/QUOTE]
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