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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 11481" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Steph, you said, "This time I don't know if difficult child went and made up a lie for one of the neighbors or if someone just made up @*#* to harrass me."</p><p></p><p>If difficult child made up a lie and it's been picked up by someone, then surely they would have looked to see if she did have a black eye? Unless she has begun trying to create a 'black eye' with make-up (a worry, if she is - but it takes a skilled hand to get it right).</p><p></p><p>That cop was very reassuring, though. If you ever DO have CPS saying, "where there's smoke, there has to be fire," then point to the number of dropped complaints as well as any medical records which back up the knowledge that this difficult child makes stuff up - has a history of it.</p><p></p><p>Is it different people each time? Or one or two malicious people? Can you ask that a dropped complaint be referred back to the complainant, to reassure them that it's been investigated and found to be groundless? Maybe even say that this particular kid has a history of making up stories?</p><p></p><p>You've got a number of problems here. It's hard enough just trying to parent a difficult kid, without other people also being difficult and making clearly false accusations.</p><p></p><p>If it's a hoax by difficult child or someone genuinely getting it wrong, then it's a big worry, because it's going to keep happening. If it's a vindictive person trying to bully you, CPS will get their measure. In the meantime it's nuisance and worry factor for you.</p><p></p><p>I know how I felt when someone called DOCS (our version of CPS) on me, claiming difficult child 3 was "emotionally neglected" as the reason for him not talking at age 2. They treated me like a criminal and there was no way I could argue my way out - whatever I tried to say, they used it against me. Then they dropped us right when we could have used their services.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there. it will pass. CPS can't keep calling when she's thirty...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 11481, member: 1991"] Steph, you said, "This time I don't know if difficult child went and made up a lie for one of the neighbors or if someone just made up @*#* to harrass me." If difficult child made up a lie and it's been picked up by someone, then surely they would have looked to see if she did have a black eye? Unless she has begun trying to create a 'black eye' with make-up (a worry, if she is - but it takes a skilled hand to get it right). That cop was very reassuring, though. If you ever DO have CPS saying, "where there's smoke, there has to be fire," then point to the number of dropped complaints as well as any medical records which back up the knowledge that this difficult child makes stuff up - has a history of it. Is it different people each time? Or one or two malicious people? Can you ask that a dropped complaint be referred back to the complainant, to reassure them that it's been investigated and found to be groundless? Maybe even say that this particular kid has a history of making up stories? You've got a number of problems here. It's hard enough just trying to parent a difficult kid, without other people also being difficult and making clearly false accusations. If it's a hoax by difficult child or someone genuinely getting it wrong, then it's a big worry, because it's going to keep happening. If it's a vindictive person trying to bully you, CPS will get their measure. In the meantime it's nuisance and worry factor for you. I know how I felt when someone called DOCS (our version of CPS) on me, claiming difficult child 3 was "emotionally neglected" as the reason for him not talking at age 2. They treated me like a criminal and there was no way I could argue my way out - whatever I tried to say, they used it against me. Then they dropped us right when we could have used their services. Hang in there. it will pass. CPS can't keep calling when she's thirty... Marg [/QUOTE]
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