Triedntrue
Well-Known Member
Just to review my 36 year old son is untreated bipolar and has used drugs. There are other diagnoses as well. Once again my son is in poor poor me mode. He has been working and has known for months that he had to put a phone system in his house which he may get evicted from soon. Probation officer told him he has till the 11th to figure it out or he goes to jail. His credit is tanked and they want a huge deposit to connect it. The other provider he says his ex didn't take it out of his name and he owes even more. I have saved him so many times and i footed the bill for a psychiatric exam for court. My credit cards are too high and i refuse to put anything else in my name because i always end up footing the bills. Yet i will still feel guilty if he goes to jail. As far as i know he is behind on rent and utilities.
I think he needs a payee (not me) and mentioned it to him and of course he had an excuse why that won't work. On top of this he has a trial next week where if he loses he will possibly get a couple of years. This was from when i admitted him to hospital and he flipped out. I know the right thing to do is stay out of it but i feel guilty. My husband says absolutely not helping. What i need to understand from those of you with bipolar experience is is he incapable of keeping his finances in order. Figuring out how to pay his bills etc. If not how does he get a payee? Should i feel obligated to help by hitting my retirement which he has used more of than i have?
I think he needs a payee (not me) and mentioned it to him and of course he had an excuse why that won't work. On top of this he has a trial next week where if he loses he will possibly get a couple of years. This was from when i admitted him to hospital and he flipped out. I know the right thing to do is stay out of it but i feel guilty. My husband says absolutely not helping. What i need to understand from those of you with bipolar experience is is he incapable of keeping his finances in order. Figuring out how to pay his bills etc. If not how does he get a payee? Should i feel obligated to help by hitting my retirement which he has used more of than i have?