Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by Woofens, Oct 23, 2008.

  1. Woofens

    Woofens New Member

    OMG... :surprise: :faint: :anxious: :confused: :D :( not sure what to think right now. Got the call about 5 minutes ago. SO doesn't even know yet.

    I'm 36, SO is 47. Our kids are 28, 26, 18, 11, 10 and 7. We have a granddaughter that turned 1 last month. I'm pregnant. SO will be 65 when this one is graduating HS. OMG

    Another baby.... I have missed having a baby for so long. The smell, the snuggles, the overwhelming love. Then I think, night feedings, diapers, terrible two's. YIKES!

    I believe that everything happens for a reason. So there was a reason for this. Maybe I'll figure it out. Maybe I won't. This baby is a gift, and I'm going to treasure him or her. OMG. LOL I'm pregnant!!!!! :):)

  2. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    HE is going to be absolutely a JOY in your life - and ours!

  3. Woofens

    Woofens New Member

    I will agree with the him at least for right now. With both my girls, I was SO sick, threw up the entire pregnancy. With my boys, I threw up maybe once. So far, no throwing up. So... boy?? LOL :)
  4. trinityroyal

    trinityroyal Well-Known Member

    What a wonderful blessing.

  5. everywoman

    everywoman Active Member

  6. house of cards

    house of cards New Member

    Congratulations!, I'm 49 with 2 three yr olds. Some things go much better when you are older, but not the energy, but you are 36 years young, you'll be fine.
  7. WhymeMom?

    WhymeMom? No real answers to life..

    My sister in law had her first at 37 so don't let the number shake you.... With all your experience and a couple of big sisters/brothers the "baby" of the family will be well looked after..... Congratulations!
  8. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader

  9. nvts

    nvts Active Member

    From one preggo to another :


    Have fun with the pregnancy, and may there be NO difficult child incidents throughout! :bigsmile:

  10. janebrain

    janebrain New Member

    Congratulations! You are still young--I had my youngest dtr at 37! You still are young enough to have energy, etc. Hope everything goes smoothly for you, keep us updated!
  11. totoro

    totoro Mom? What's a GFG?

    I was ummm, doing the math, ummm, 34 when N was born. It was easy peasy!!! 31 when K was born! One of my closest friends was in her mid 40's and she was on bed rest but still did fine!!!
    We are WARRIOR MOMS!!! This is what we are meant to do!!! :warrior:

    ps: Cheryl or Mods: we need baby emoticons!!!
  12. Fran

    Fran Former desparate mom

    Congratulations. 36 isn't old. I had my baby at 34. My mom had her kids spread out over 18 yrs. It was torture when I was little but I am incredibly close to them as adults. Best of luck to you.
  13. Woofens

    Woofens New Member

    Thanks everyone! I'm so glad for the support here... especially from the moms that were my age or older when they had kids.

    I'm happy, don't get me wrong. Just kinda OMG about it still LOL Wasn't expecting this to happen :)
  14. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    Congratulations on your wolflet!
  15. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

  16. mrscatinthehat

    mrscatinthehat Seussical


  17. Abbey

    Abbey Spork Queen


    (better you than me)

  18. Woofens

    Woofens New Member

    Thanks all! Now if I could just SLEEP!!! I've been on the Lunesta for almost 5 years. I do not fall asleep without it until 3-5 AM. Getting up at 7 AM hoovers!!! I have been sleeping after the kids leave for school ( I need to stay up and try to sleep that night) but it still takes me around an hour to fall asleep. Sigh. Eventually I'll be so tired it doesn't matter I hope.

  19. Marguerite

    Marguerite Active Member

    Hang in there. Pregnancy hormones should kick in soon. They say that your body craves about 10% more sleep when you're pregnant.

    As for age - I was 38 when pregnant with difficult child 3 after a 7 year gap. My mother also had a 7 year gap before she had me, her last, when she was 44. She said that she enjoyed me the most as a baby because at last she felt she knew what she was doing and had the maturity and time to really enjoy parenting. All the others were at school so it was just us two during the day. I have (unusually, I'm told) memories that go right back to before I was a year old, although only scraps before 12 months. Much more detail of the first four years when my mother & I did a lot of stuff together. When she said she enjoyed being with me, I can vouch for it somewhat - although she did tend to use the radio to babysit me and to mask her location when she wanted to get on with the housework (and I was put in the playpen).

    I found a similar experience with difficult child 3. I took more time with him, he was the baby I had the chance to enjoy, to just be at home with instead of being a full-time worker breastfeeding in the breaks. Because of my physical disability, I didn't do what other mothers do (and what I had done with easy child) and clean house as soon as the baby slept - instead, I slept when the baby did and woke fully rested ready to cope when he woke too. I spent time with him, I sang to him, I played with him, I talked to him - so when he was delayed in speech development and they told me he was emotionally neglected or not stimulated enough, I knew it was rubbish.

    I thank my lucky stars that I was a stay-at-home parent for difficult child 3; if I hadn't been I really don't know how well we'd have coped when we discovered the autism.

    He could have easily been a easy child. But he's not. However, I think he's a lot closer to a easy child than if I were still trying to juggle a job and the other kids all the same age.

    We're now older parents. The first three have all either left home or are about to. Three weddings. Our holidays are now mainly three of us - me, husband and difficult child 3. We took easy child & BF1 on our last BIG holiday (New Zealand June 2007) but they were along as adults, as equals. It still felt like me, husband & difficult child 3, with another couple along for the ride. And July this year, a week in Port Macquarie - me, husband & difficult child 3. OK, easy child came along for a few days but otherwise it was just the three of us.

    If it had been just husband & me, we probably would have been lying around the pool more on that holiday. But then - difficult child 3 was doing a lot of his lessons in the mornings in the holiday unit, then in the afternoons we'd go out sightseeing. Because we were thinking of difficult child 3's lessons, we went to places connected to learning in some way. difficult child 3 loves mangroves for example, and they have a board walk through mangroves in that area so we checked it out. If it had been just me and husband, we probably wouldn't have gone. I am glad we went. Other places - again, for difficult child 3's benefit.

    When we have people visiting us, especially people from overseas, husband & I get a real kick out of showing them around and helping them discover our country. To see the place through a visitor's eyes is a privilege for us. And a young child - it's a very similar thing. Now we are seeing our country through difficult child 3's eyes and again, getting a kick out of it.

    Yes, it can be tiring. Yes, sometimes we just want to put him back in the cupboard and take out the batteries for a while. But we have to soldier on. [husband is such a pedant - he just looked over my shoulder and said, "You have to take the batteries out BEFORE you put them in the cupboard." And people wonder when I say that Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) doesn't just run in our family, it gallops!]

    You have some good support in place. I suspect Moonwolf is very happy about this and will be a big help for you. In many ways you are all helping one another. If this baby is a easy child, it could take some time to be sure.

    A baby will keep you and husband young at heart and in mind, even while you think it is ageing your bodies. Just think - you will get to enjoy learning about your world all over again, through a fresh pair of eyes.