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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 677010" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Welcome to the forum, AliceD. I moved your post here so you could get more responses. First, I'm so sorry that you are in this situation. </p><p></p><p>I love your solution! What a perfect solution. You need to move and downsize anyway, and this is a natural way for him to get out on his own and start dealing with life on life's terms.</p><p></p><p>I hope you will continue to move forward with your plans, and keep him informed of your timeline so he has notice about when the move-out deadline is.</p><p></p><p>Keep it simple and keep it short. I recently suggested to my mother (who has her 50 year old active alcoholic son living with her and my dad) that she give my brother notice that they would be selling the house and moving to a retirement home within ____ months. Whatever that number is. She heard me, but I don't know if she will take that advice or not. I told her this: It would be the best gift you could ever give your son. </p><p></p><p>Who knows what capabilities your grandson might discover, once he is on his own? Maybe he will stay the same. Maybe he will be worse. Maybe he will be better. He needs that chance to find out.</p><p></p><p>And it's time for you to claim your own peace, your own place and enjoy these years of your own life. You've done all you can.</p><p></p><p>Please work toward this with a clear mind and conscience. You deserve that. We're here for you throughout the process.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 677010, member: 17542"] Welcome to the forum, AliceD. I moved your post here so you could get more responses. First, I'm so sorry that you are in this situation. I love your solution! What a perfect solution. You need to move and downsize anyway, and this is a natural way for him to get out on his own and start dealing with life on life's terms. I hope you will continue to move forward with your plans, and keep him informed of your timeline so he has notice about when the move-out deadline is. Keep it simple and keep it short. I recently suggested to my mother (who has her 50 year old active alcoholic son living with her and my dad) that she give my brother notice that they would be selling the house and moving to a retirement home within ____ months. Whatever that number is. She heard me, but I don't know if she will take that advice or not. I told her this: It would be the best gift you could ever give your son. Who knows what capabilities your grandson might discover, once he is on his own? Maybe he will stay the same. Maybe he will be worse. Maybe he will be better. He needs that chance to find out. And it's time for you to claim your own peace, your own place and enjoy these years of your own life. You've done all you can. Please work toward this with a clear mind and conscience. You deserve that. We're here for you throughout the process. [/QUOTE]
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