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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 744830" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Elsi, she may feel forced by the pushy in laws. Its not her family.</p><p></p><p>Here is a true story.</p><p></p><p>I was married before to a man who was not the greatest but he had a family that seemed kind loving, and very close and they had a beautiful home and the aunt, where is where we had most holidays, cooked like a gifted chef. They were of Scandanavian origin so their big get together was on Christmas Eve. There were also cousins there to amuse my.kids. Everyone dressed up fancy. I felt inferior there because the other cousins and my ex's brother were rich or doing very well, their wives all knew each other well, and my husband did notnhave a great job and never participated in things that the others did together and he was kind of left out by his own choice. So I was too.</p><p></p><p>Christmas Day was in my mind a let down to my kids. We stayed home. My side of the family was Jewish and didnt celebrate Christmas and probably would have left us out even if they had. They didnt like us,never visited. </p><p></p><p>The kids opened presents and had a nice home dinner but it seemed so boring to me after the celebration the night before.</p><p></p><p>Years later, when the kids were adults, all three told me at different times how they had disliked the big hoopla on Christmas Eve and had wished we had just stayed home. I was really shocked that they had felt that way. After the divorce between ex and I the kids did not keep in touch with their cousins at all.</p><p></p><p>To go further into it, this perfect family fell apart. I found out from my ex and Princess.</p><p></p><p></p><p>All three cousins who had been so close had a terrible falling out and one moved to Colorado from Chicago to get away. The three boys saw each other for the first time in twenty years at a wedding. Princess was there and spoke to one of the uncles. He gave details but did not seem upset over the split or interested in making things better. There was no reconcilliation at the wedding. The guys didnt talk to each other at all. They sat apart.</p><p></p><p>The parents have to see their sons seperately. None of them by the way were difficult kids. They are still successful.</p><p></p><p>I feel really badly for the parents,now 95 and 97. Scandanavians have long life expenctencies.</p><p></p><p>Anybow my point is E may not like the arrangement so much. She may feel forced. Have you ever spoken to her about it? Money cant buy everything. Also you cant predict the health of this family in the future with the grandkids.</p><p></p><p>Nothing prepared me for how this homey family turned out.</p><p></p><p>Try to live in the now. The future is not here yet.</p><p></p><p>Love and light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 744830, member: 1550"] Elsi, she may feel forced by the pushy in laws. Its not her family. Here is a true story. I was married before to a man who was not the greatest but he had a family that seemed kind loving, and very close and they had a beautiful home and the aunt, where is where we had most holidays, cooked like a gifted chef. They were of Scandanavian origin so their big get together was on Christmas Eve. There were also cousins there to amuse my.kids. Everyone dressed up fancy. I felt inferior there because the other cousins and my ex's brother were rich or doing very well, their wives all knew each other well, and my husband did notnhave a great job and never participated in things that the others did together and he was kind of left out by his own choice. So I was too. Christmas Day was in my mind a let down to my kids. We stayed home. My side of the family was Jewish and didnt celebrate Christmas and probably would have left us out even if they had. They didnt like us,never visited. The kids opened presents and had a nice home dinner but it seemed so boring to me after the celebration the night before. Years later, when the kids were adults, all three told me at different times how they had disliked the big hoopla on Christmas Eve and had wished we had just stayed home. I was really shocked that they had felt that way. After the divorce between ex and I the kids did not keep in touch with their cousins at all. To go further into it, this perfect family fell apart. I found out from my ex and Princess. All three cousins who had been so close had a terrible falling out and one moved to Colorado from Chicago to get away. The three boys saw each other for the first time in twenty years at a wedding. Princess was there and spoke to one of the uncles. He gave details but did not seem upset over the split or interested in making things better. There was no reconcilliation at the wedding. The guys didnt talk to each other at all. They sat apart. The parents have to see their sons seperately. None of them by the way were difficult kids. They are still successful. I feel really badly for the parents,now 95 and 97. Scandanavians have long life expenctencies. Anybow my point is E may not like the arrangement so much. She may feel forced. Have you ever spoken to her about it? Money cant buy everything. Also you cant predict the health of this family in the future with the grandkids. Nothing prepared me for how this homey family turned out. Try to live in the now. The future is not here yet. Love and light! [/QUOTE]
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