NOT. A new email from katie today.........one that just reeks of how I am supposed to feel so very very sorry for her and the kids. Oh gimme a break. "Oh, I feel like crud because I can't buy my kids any presents this year, or even pick out presents for them this year. We've called everywhere and no one wants to hire us, can you believe I only have 100 units left on my phone? Oh why oh why don't they want to hire me?? Welfare caseworker won't call her back so she has no insurance card and no medications for herself or the kids. (and no food stamps I bet) Kayla and Alex cry constantly and keep asking me why they have to stay in the shelter. It's horrible. And Evan contracted ringworm from someone in the shelter............ And I just am probably not going to be good company tomorrow because I feel like a low life." Well.........hmmm. If the shoe fits, wear it. Oh, wait, let me pull out my violin. omg So, did I give her a sympathetic response? Hahahaha No. I told her that santa and his elves are hard at work so she needs to stop thinking about xmas and keep her mind and effort focused on important things like a job, housing, ect. I told her that she needs to talk to M, or have a staff member there talk to him, about the way he dresses when he looks for work that a 40 something man dressed like a 15 yr old gangsta gives the 1st impression that he is a thug, a thief, a drug addict, or a total nut job. No one is going to hire a man his age dressed like that. He looks ridiculous. Then I apologized for not being able to come up with a way to state that tactfully. lol Then I told her to go next door and volunteer at the salvation army to get referrences that are current, I doubt they'd have too much issue with Evan tagging along or M could watch him. I reminded her for the now 4th time that our Tday celebration is NOT tomorrow but friday and Nichole will pick her up at 10am and to be ready and waiting. Told her that will give them a break for a day from the shelter and they can eat until they pop. lol Told her again that easy child and I are taking the kids on the 18th and 19th for darrin's birthday party and xmas shopping, and that they will be sleeping over on xmas eve. I ended it with instead of feeling sorry for yourself, try getting PO about your situation to the point where you get motivated enough to not give up until you find work. Ok that I did put tactfully, but that was the point and I made it clear. The kids have been out of school all week. Sounds like they're driving her nuts. lol Can't say I blame them, there isn't anything to do. Also.........her caseworker won't refer her to Red Cross shelter.........most likely a major disappointment there. She has the medical card I brought to her and that is still good until they issue her a new card, duh.....should actually be the same for the food stamps. All she did was move counties, not the darn state. And I've told her repeatedly she has to go down to the welfare office and talk to them. sheesh It's not that far from her. It's coming to a head. Nichole and easy child have about had it with the poor pity me routine. It doesn't wash when they work their tails off to get what they have. (Nichole just interviewed for a 2nd job) Nichole says there are tons of listings up there, they must not be looking. So........some words may fly during our family dinner. Especially since we are working so hard to make this as special an xmas as possible for the grands because it may be the only Family Christmas they ever get if katie decides to up and take off. I can handle the pity me crud and let it roll off my back while I just grin and nod and repeat what they need to be doing. Lots of years of practice. lol At least katie did go to the clinic and get the cream for the ring worm. I told her to be thankful it wasn't lice. Yep that was mean, and I meant it to be. Last time she was here she gave the entire family lice, I've never been so mad in my life cuz she sat here for weeks and never said a word knowing she had them. I had to cut Nichole's waist length hair to her shoulders. Then we had to do it a 2nd time because she didn't like the smell of the medicated shampoo so didn't use it right.........so the 2nd time I shampooed her hair with it. ugh Sorry, ring worm I can handle. It happens. You never know what may happen on friday. I've done this whole deal by listening to my gut. So far it hasn't steered me wrong. I may just be the one who blurts out Why not just let the kids stay with us then....... lol Cuz that is the way how I'm handling this keeps happening. All of a sudden it's like something else takes over and out it comes. lol Yeah, don't really see her letting the kids stay here. That would be an end to her meal ticket. But I can always dream. Wow. Two weeks.........I wonder what condition she'll be in by xmas vacation.