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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 753438" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>I think we can only learn to enforce our own boundaries. The rent is due. It is a requirement to live here. I think I have to let them practice real life as much as possible while still living at home .If you don't pay rent to a landlord, you lose your place. </p><p></p><p>I have told my daughter that I would sigh my car over to her when she graduates. We did the same for son (who of course messed up this deal for himself). She will need to pay for the title transfer, gas, insurance, and repairs .I am hoping this will give her incentive to get a job while doing all online classes next semester. And once she has her degree, I already told her I would not be paying for medications anymore. </p><p></p><p>I have taken back by car and my rule that nobody drives my car but me. This severely limits her with places to go and the way she is treating me,I won't give any rides other than to psychiatric and school. I am hoping that these measures will all let her see that working is inevitable. </p><p></p><p>I think you are right about trying to force her to change towards me. I can't change anyone. So rather than saying I won't pay for anything until I get some respect, I will just say no. She will figure it out. No is a complete sentence and I will start making use of it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 753438, member: 24254"] I think we can only learn to enforce our own boundaries. The rent is due. It is a requirement to live here. I think I have to let them practice real life as much as possible while still living at home .If you don't pay rent to a landlord, you lose your place. I have told my daughter that I would sigh my car over to her when she graduates. We did the same for son (who of course messed up this deal for himself). She will need to pay for the title transfer, gas, insurance, and repairs .I am hoping this will give her incentive to get a job while doing all online classes next semester. And once she has her degree, I already told her I would not be paying for medications anymore. I have taken back by car and my rule that nobody drives my car but me. This severely limits her with places to go and the way she is treating me,I won't give any rides other than to psychiatric and school. I am hoping that these measures will all let her see that working is inevitable. I think you are right about trying to force her to change towards me. I can't change anyone. So rather than saying I won't pay for anything until I get some respect, I will just say no. She will figure it out. No is a complete sentence and I will start making use of it. [/QUOTE]
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