I'm not sure what the protocol is for recommending a forum-relevant reading material here, but here goes: I'm reading Tara Bray Smith's wonderful memoir, "West of Then: A Mother, A Daughter, and a Journey Past Paradise," and I think it would be very interesting reading for many of the forum participants. It's the nonfiction account of an adult daughter of a difficult child mother (the mother's GFGness having begun in her early teens, or even before--all the early signs were there), recalling her very erratic & problematic childhood in Hawaii with a mother--a classic difficult child--who simply never grew up, and whose life was marked by addictions, homelessness, prostitution, and all of the other problems associated with an adult difficult child's lifestyle. Tara's account is fascinating, at times harrowing, and always powerful and drenched in a peculiar kind of pathos--a grossly imperfect, sad life lived in a tropical, sun-drenched paradise where homelessness and addiction are all too easily absorbed in a climate that's relatively easy on the homeless and a social culture so marked by the transience of a tourist population that the homeless become largely invisible within it. Perhaps most interestingly of all, it's an account of Tara's return to Hawaii in '02, at age 32, to search for her homeless mother, who's been missing and unheard from for a half year, lost somewhere in the bowels of the state's shadow-world of homeless shelters, prostitution, addicts, petty criminals, and so on. I'm finding the book especially fascinating after having had my own experience with a family difficult child and having read the accounts of so many mothers of difficult children here--it's the life story of a difficult child *mother* from the vantage point of her easy child daughter, now grown up, and the daughter's understandable struggle in loving and forgiving and dealing with a mother so chronically wayward and foolish and now, in haggard late middle age, vulnerable and damaged. Very powerful stuff. Highly recommended.