First - my closest friend is going through a really difficult time with her H. He has always been verbally, emotionally, mentally and [at times] physically abusive to her. They have been together since forever and have 5 kids together, all of whom are adults except one who is 17. I don't want to go into detail, but I am so very worried about her. She's finally at a point where she wants to walk away or have him leave, but he's one of those psychotics who may hunt her down and kill her rather than just walk away. I mean it, really. He's consumed with delusional thoughts. He wakes her at all hours of the night to badger her and beat her emotionally and verbally; she's averaging 3 hours of sleep a night, if that. She's left home and come to my house and her daughter's already twice, but she feels trapped with no where to really go. I know she's hesitant to contact a shelter for the shame it may bring upon the family. I think he may kill her - he has threatened as much. Her 17 y/o son tries to protect her when he can, but he's a kid and can't be around all the time. Plus, because all the kids grew up in this f-ed up home, what is normal for them would not be considered normal for most of us and so I think they don't realize how serious things are. I feel my friend is about to give up and doesn't care if she lives or dies - she just wants peace. But she's afraid of what he will do if she leaves. I have tried to encourage her to seek out a shelter and a lawyer. The H claims if they get divorced he will spend every last dime so she gets nothing. He said he won't be happy until she is either dead or living under a bridge with nothing. He's going around town telling anyone who will listen all sorts of horrible things about my friend from 30 years ago = before they were even married! Apparently, when she was 17 she slept with another man and he's holding that over her head. And apparently she is bad with money and he's telling everyone she stole from him. It's nuts. They've been married 28 years. My H thinks the guy wants out of the marriage but instead of just walking away he's trying to create reasons to justify not being with her anymore. I just want my friend outta there! The poor woman hasn't relaxed in God knows how long. She can't, she's always on guard and he's so unpredictable. This past week she changed her payroll so her entire check goes into her account. Prior, it was all going into HIS separate savings account that didn't have her name on it. She's trying to set herself up in case they split, but when he finds out about the money, that may be the straw for him - I think he may snap. Please pray for my friend for strength. Thanks. The second thing is that I have a presentation to give in class tonight (I know, not nearly as important!). With all the power outages and loss of IT at home and work, I've managed to patch together a decent presentation, but it's sort of rushed - I am hoping it's acceptable and good. Just send up a good wish for me if you can. Thank you!