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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 717692" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Oh DoneDad, I'm so sorry. You just described what I used to lose sleep over.....another grand baby coming along that I would have to fight for and raise. What a nightmare for you. I remember when you were going thru this about your little grandson.....</p><p></p><p>This may not be a popular choice, but is it possible for her to have an abortion at this stage? Can you talk her into that? I'm sorry if I am stepping on sensitive ground here...I don't want to start a dialogue about abortion, just throwing out options....just the first thought that came to mind. Would she be willing to give the baby up for adoption? And if so, perhaps she could get that underway NOW. My second thought is to let her know under no circumstances will you be raising her child nor will you be supporting her.......I used to believe (gratefully I was not put to this test) that if another child came along I would refuse to have any connection at all with the child.....it was my fantasy anyway.....because I knew in my heart that if I met that child, I would want that child to be taken care of and of course, as you know, the only one left standing is me.....or you.....</p><p></p><p>I think right now you have to be proactive and state your case to her. If you are not going to allow her to stay with you, and you are not going to support she and the child, then perhaps if you communicate that directly at this point, you may have some impact on her choice to have another child. </p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry DoneDad, I empathize with you in a big way......I can't imagine how hard this is for you......at our age, raising kids is so very challenging on so many fronts. I wish I could say or do something more for you......my heart goes out to you and your wife....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 717692, member: 13542"] Oh DoneDad, I'm so sorry. You just described what I used to lose sleep over.....another grand baby coming along that I would have to fight for and raise. What a nightmare for you. I remember when you were going thru this about your little grandson..... This may not be a popular choice, but is it possible for her to have an abortion at this stage? Can you talk her into that? I'm sorry if I am stepping on sensitive ground here...I don't want to start a dialogue about abortion, just throwing out options....just the first thought that came to mind. Would she be willing to give the baby up for adoption? And if so, perhaps she could get that underway NOW. My second thought is to let her know under no circumstances will you be raising her child nor will you be supporting her.......I used to believe (gratefully I was not put to this test) that if another child came along I would refuse to have any connection at all with the child.....it was my fantasy anyway.....because I knew in my heart that if I met that child, I would want that child to be taken care of and of course, as you know, the only one left standing is me.....or you..... I think right now you have to be proactive and state your case to her. If you are not going to allow her to stay with you, and you are not going to support she and the child, then perhaps if you communicate that directly at this point, you may have some impact on her choice to have another child. I'm so sorry DoneDad, I empathize with you in a big way......I can't imagine how hard this is for you......at our age, raising kids is so very challenging on so many fronts. I wish I could say or do something more for you......my heart goes out to you and your wife.... [/QUOTE]
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