Premature baby on the way

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by katya02, Sep 3, 2010.

  1. katya02

    katya02 Solace

    Yesterday girlfriend was referred to a specialist at the closest referral center for problems on an ultrasound. girlfriend didn't understand what the precise problem was. I offered to drive her and difficult child 1 to the appointment early this morning and help clarify information for them, and they accepted. girlfriend went into premature labor during the night and was sent by ambulance to the referral center. Her water has broken; she's only twenty-nine weeks along. Asking prayers for this little babe who is going to come into the world extremely early, and for girlfriend and difficult child 1.
  2. trinityroyal

    trinityroyal Well-Known Member

    Saying prayers for all.
  3. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Oh no...sigh. Prayers all around.
  4. Mom2oddson

    Mom2oddson Active Member

    Adding my prayers for all of you!
  5. DaisyFace

    DaisyFace Love me...Love me not

    O dear! Saying prayers...

    I will keep you all in my thoughts today...please check in when you can and let us know how everyone is doing...
  6. DenitaS

    DenitaS New Member

    Prayers coming your way....... Hope to get an update from you on how everyone is holding up later today!
  7. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    Many prayers for the safety and health of mother and child.
  8. katya02

    katya02 Solace

    Thank you all for your kind thoughts and prayers. The news is not good. girlfriend has a very large vascular tumor on her placenta that is causing strain to the baby's heart (too much blood flow for the heart to push around). The baby has developed fluid on her abdomen and under her scalp, and her GI system looks affected. However, her heart rate is still normal and she doesn't have fluid around the heart. Because the situation, while an emergency, isn't absolutely critical yet, the doctors are going to try to hold off on delivery for another 36 hours to give the necessary doses of steroid to help mature the baby's lungs. girlfriend's contractions have stopped for now but if she goes back into labor she may deliver before the 36 hours. Her water has broken so she is committed to deliver.

    The medical team had a long talk with difficult child 1 and girlfriend, and the neonatologist gave them very extensive information. They won't know how badly the baby's heart is affected until after delivery; then they'll evaluate her heart, do head ultrasounds to look for bleeds, and monitor her GI system. She will be intubated and fed through her umbilical cord vessels. If all goes well she will hopefully go home in mid-November.

    So - it will be a long road, if the little one survives. I don't think girlfriend understood most of the information, even though the attending doctor gave an excellent, layman's description of the problems; it will take time for her to assimilate it. She is more focused right now on not wanting to go through any more contractions. :/ One day at a time.

    I had to come home for the night to take care of some things here (two hour drive so I did consider staying, but couldn't really); I will go back tomorrow morning and hope that she lasts through the night. difficult child 1 has done very well - I have to say I'm proud of him in this situation. He has been calm, has comforted girlfriend and stayed right with her and will sleep in her room overnight, and although he is clearly stressed and upset by the news from the medical team, he summed it up by saying, 'I guess we can only wait and see, for now. We just have to hope.' I couldn't have said it better myself.

    It will be an eventful weekend. I'm doing a lot of praying.
  9. klmno

    klmno Active Member

    Oh my. I'm sure this is all quite overwhelming for the girlfriend and a lot to deal with for the entire family. I'm glad to hear your difficult child is handling it so well and being as supportive and hopeful as he can. I can't imagine the stress and emotions all of you must be going thru. I will keep the family and the baby in my thoughts.... please keep us updated as you can.

    Pardon my ignorance if this question has an obvious answer, but will the tumor the mother has somehow be discharged or otherwise go away after birth or will that be an additional surgery after the birth?
  10. zba189

    zba189 Guest

    Prayers are being sent.
  11. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    I'm so sorry, Katya. What a worry.

  12. katya02

    katya02 Solace

    Thank you all ... to answer klmno's question, the tumor is in the placenta and should be completely expelled with the placenta. However, it has some slightly unusual features on ultrasound and if it turns out to be part of another type of tumor, there's a small possibility that there could be involvement elsewhere in girlfriend's body. That's one of the details I don't think she fully understood, but it's not something to emphasize right now. It would be a very rare thing if it happened, so for now we're just hoping it's a limited vascular tumor.
  13. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    I'm so sorry, katya. Prayers and hugs going out.
  14. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    I am so very sorry. Many prayers coming your way. I am sure the info was overwhelming for both girlfriend and difficult child 1. As difficult child said, it is a matter of waiting to see what will happen.

    Sending love and support to all of you.
  15. donna723

    donna723 Well-Known Member

    I'm so sorry. Sending up lots of prayers for you all.
  16. DenitaS

    DenitaS New Member

    Prayers from here too!! Hope you are able to get some sleep before heading up tomorrow!
  17. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful


    Big time prayers going up for the little one as well as the rest of the family.

    It can be so hard to absorb that sort of information when you're young.......even when it's put simply. It's so much at once when you're already scared to death and your emotions are in an uproar. been there done that I'm so glad you were able to go along with the kids and help today. I'm sure they truly appreciated it as well.

    Please keep us updated.
  18. Mamaof5

    Mamaof5 Guest

    I can tell you that 29 weekers do well and looking for brain bleeds is a common procedure for all preemies. Checking out the GI track is also common for all preemies. The surfactant (steroids for the lungs) can also be given directly to the lungs of the baby through a tube into the lungs too (they did it with my 29 weeker) so if she did not make the 36 hours (and I hope she did, the longer baby stays the better off baby is, even if it's by minutes, every minute counts) they have options for the lungs outside of utero too.

    I pray that the baby does very well and that mom has no lasting issues either. If they or you want two stories of experiences of premature babies I'm more than happy to PM you my number and I will talk with all of you. The out come now a days for premature babies is very great prognosis for them. Our technology has come a very, very long way. Her best best is to breastfeed or to pump and bottle feed the breast milk, even if it's just while baby is in NICU. Bring Kanga Care too (most NICUs already do this though, it's part of their policies). Call on me if you need something, I may even still have preemie clothes kicking around (my pack rat nature) and even a couple of baby slings and carriers that may come of use later on if they need it.

    I've had a 29 weeker and a 33 weeker. Nearly had my second child at 24 weeks. Bless you all, you all will make it through this.
  19. toughlovin

    toughlovin Guest

    Thinking of you all!
  20. janebrain

    janebrain New Member

    I am thinking of all of you and hope for the best. I'll be watching for updates.