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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 39248" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Amber - I'm so sorry - what a lot to deal with- right now.</p><p></p><p>Reading your description of your son's rages brought back memories. I'm going to toss out a suggestion, take it or leave it, but... it's just based on our experience with- thank you. He used to have to be restrained frequently. His raging was like a tornado - violent, completely over the top. In a weird way, being restrained wasn't a bad thing to him - it actually reinforced the raging and he would keep on accelerating. While he was only put in actual leather restraints once (in a hospital), in all his Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placements he spent a lot of time with four or more staff members having to hold him down. It was really awful. The restraints didn't calm him or stop him. In effect, he was still in control of the situation because he was requiring that 4 or more staff were there giving him their undivided attention as he did his darndest to break free and/or hurt them and himself.</p><p></p><p>At his current Residential Treatment Center (RTC), they will restrain once a day, max of I think 15-20 minutes, and then they chemically restrain. I had an *extremely* difficult time with- the concept of my son being drugged into oblivion but at the same time, like your son, he could really physically work himself up into a state. If he could not get himself under control during those 15-20 minutes, they would then offer him oral Ativan. If he wouldn't comply (and he didn't for several months), they would inject him. Now, as horrible as it is to hear your kid raging in the background, it's equally horrible to hear them stoned to the gills... but at the same time, the physical stress that he was putting on his body was gone as was the danger that either he would be inadvertantly hurt during a restraint or that he would intentionally cause serious injury to someone else. </p><p></p><p>I don't know, it's a lousy choice to have to make, and I suspect that probably most members on the board would probably strongly disagree with- chemical restraints. Heck, I'm still uneasy with it because I think there's a huge potential for abuse. *But*... in the right hands, by trained professionals, it can be an effective short-term solution. I will never forget the endless raging and restraints, the horrible physical state that thank you could work himself into... The chemical restraints put a brake on that physical response his body was having. He also was no longer in control of the situation - choices were laid out, he could regain control of himself *or* voluntarily take a sedative *or* the staff would take control of the situation. </p><p></p><p>Again - just something I'm tossing out that might be worth discussing with- psychiatrist, only for while he's in the hospital and so unstable.</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry - my heart hurts for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 39248, member: 8"] Amber - I'm so sorry - what a lot to deal with- right now. Reading your description of your son's rages brought back memories. I'm going to toss out a suggestion, take it or leave it, but... it's just based on our experience with- thank you. He used to have to be restrained frequently. His raging was like a tornado - violent, completely over the top. In a weird way, being restrained wasn't a bad thing to him - it actually reinforced the raging and he would keep on accelerating. While he was only put in actual leather restraints once (in a hospital), in all his Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placements he spent a lot of time with four or more staff members having to hold him down. It was really awful. The restraints didn't calm him or stop him. In effect, he was still in control of the situation because he was requiring that 4 or more staff were there giving him their undivided attention as he did his darndest to break free and/or hurt them and himself. At his current Residential Treatment Center (RTC), they will restrain once a day, max of I think 15-20 minutes, and then they chemically restrain. I had an *extremely* difficult time with- the concept of my son being drugged into oblivion but at the same time, like your son, he could really physically work himself up into a state. If he could not get himself under control during those 15-20 minutes, they would then offer him oral Ativan. If he wouldn't comply (and he didn't for several months), they would inject him. Now, as horrible as it is to hear your kid raging in the background, it's equally horrible to hear them stoned to the gills... but at the same time, the physical stress that he was putting on his body was gone as was the danger that either he would be inadvertantly hurt during a restraint or that he would intentionally cause serious injury to someone else. I don't know, it's a lousy choice to have to make, and I suspect that probably most members on the board would probably strongly disagree with- chemical restraints. Heck, I'm still uneasy with it because I think there's a huge potential for abuse. *But*... in the right hands, by trained professionals, it can be an effective short-term solution. I will never forget the endless raging and restraints, the horrible physical state that thank you could work himself into... The chemical restraints put a brake on that physical response his body was having. He also was no longer in control of the situation - choices were laid out, he could regain control of himself *or* voluntarily take a sedative *or* the staff would take control of the situation. Again - just something I'm tossing out that might be worth discussing with- psychiatrist, only for while he's in the hospital and so unstable. I'm so sorry - my heart hurts for you. [/QUOTE]
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