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<blockquote data-quote="seek" data-source="post: 714747" data-attributes="member: 22002"><p>Your understanding about scapegoating and your kind words about how that would hurt coming from one's own children is validating and healing for me (as you can imagine, having been a scapegoat yourself).</p><p></p><p>My mother was the one who started the pattern with me - I figured her out early and did not allow her to hurt me further (when I could avoid it, which was not always, but I got better at it). She lived till almost 97 and I managed her care and entire life for 11 years. She trained my kids to disrespect me, but they had other reasons, as well (very complicated).</p><p></p><p>When my grandson was first discovered to be alcoholic, we attended a church based "therapy" (not trained therapists) - and I had told one of my kids I was afraid of being scapegoated (because I could tell it was starting to happen). In the next session, it did happen and SHE joined in! It was devastating, but I don't play that role anymore. I will be completely alone rather than take on that role again. I won't let them hurt me like that again.</p><p></p><p>Two of my kids are very mean, bordering on evil <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> - I do think alcohol brings you down to the level where lower entities can take hold.</p><p></p><p>I love you are listening to YouTube vids about soul families! And I love angels - they give me lots and lots of comfort. I was asking for help from angels last night because I don't know what's going on with my grandson and I need strength. I do feel they are available. I always feel comforted when I ask for their help.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for understanding about scapegoating! Glad you retired your role. Sounds like you have a nice family!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="seek, post: 714747, member: 22002"] Your understanding about scapegoating and your kind words about how that would hurt coming from one's own children is validating and healing for me (as you can imagine, having been a scapegoat yourself). My mother was the one who started the pattern with me - I figured her out early and did not allow her to hurt me further (when I could avoid it, which was not always, but I got better at it). She lived till almost 97 and I managed her care and entire life for 11 years. She trained my kids to disrespect me, but they had other reasons, as well (very complicated). When my grandson was first discovered to be alcoholic, we attended a church based "therapy" (not trained therapists) - and I had told one of my kids I was afraid of being scapegoated (because I could tell it was starting to happen). In the next session, it did happen and SHE joined in! It was devastating, but I don't play that role anymore. I will be completely alone rather than take on that role again. I won't let them hurt me like that again. Two of my kids are very mean, bordering on evil :) - I do think alcohol brings you down to the level where lower entities can take hold. I love you are listening to YouTube vids about soul families! And I love angels - they give me lots and lots of comfort. I was asking for help from angels last night because I don't know what's going on with my grandson and I need strength. I do feel they are available. I always feel comforted when I ask for their help. Thanks for understanding about scapegoating! Glad you retired your role. Sounds like you have a nice family! [/QUOTE]
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