I have been reading this forum for several months. I have found both comfort and terror as I realize the path we are on is so similar to many on this forum. My story: 20 year old, highly intelligent son (scored in top 2% on ACT) has been spiraling down since about spring of his senior year in high school when he started smoking pot. Went off to large state university and started out strong in an honors program then failed next 2 semesters. Has been home since Christmas because we wouldn't pay for more schooling. He smokes pot, has gotten into more severe drugs at college, depressed, and no ability to focus or concentrate or make long term plans to get life on track. He refuses to get help or more precisely claims he doesn't have time to get help. He is paying us rent to live at home and now working as waiter about 30 to 40 hours per week. The longer he is home I see baby steps of improvement but then he goes visits college friends and he is back to mental fog. Obviously party time while away. My husband ...and reluctantly I, agree that he will need to move out at end of summer or go back to school on his own dime. Otherwise he will continue to muddle through with no future. I had a sister who suffered with schizophrenia and lots of addictions in family members. So the genetic lottery is not favorable. What is the best course of action to help him help himself? He should be half through college but instead he has about 1 1/2 semester of good credits and $10k in college loans. Is pushing him out of the nest the only solution?