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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 712540" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I think you did very well. I do think you need to let him know that school is his job and if he is not doing well at it, his fun things are over. My children all knew that if they did not get good grades, they did not have a life, period. My youngest pretty much can do whatever he wants. He has his chores, but other than that he does as he pleases because he is a straight A student with almost perfect attendance. If his grades were to go down, he would find that he would lose all of his privileges. I would not buy the food he likes. I would not give him money for anything. I would monitor his comings and goings FAR more closely. He would have a curfew and it would be early. I would also monitor his homework. </p><p></p><p>He also would not have electronics in his room. None. Of course my son doesn't have a phone because he doesn't want to pay for one. He doesn't make many calls. </p><p></p><p>Do you have a set date that you will stop supporting him if he is not making serious progress toward his education? Have you told him that if he is blowing off school then he will have to move out when he turns 18, or at least he will have to pay rent and utilities and other things at your home? If you make him pay rent, be aware that you will have to legally evict him if you want him to leave your home. It can take 30 days or more unless he is a danger to you and you can get a restraining order. I know that is hard to think about, but if drugs are an issue, our kids can become very dangerous. If you use, you generally sell to support your habit and that brings other users to you, which brings danger to you and puts everyone around you in serious danger.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 712540, member: 1233"] I think you did very well. I do think you need to let him know that school is his job and if he is not doing well at it, his fun things are over. My children all knew that if they did not get good grades, they did not have a life, period. My youngest pretty much can do whatever he wants. He has his chores, but other than that he does as he pleases because he is a straight A student with almost perfect attendance. If his grades were to go down, he would find that he would lose all of his privileges. I would not buy the food he likes. I would not give him money for anything. I would monitor his comings and goings FAR more closely. He would have a curfew and it would be early. I would also monitor his homework. He also would not have electronics in his room. None. Of course my son doesn't have a phone because he doesn't want to pay for one. He doesn't make many calls. Do you have a set date that you will stop supporting him if he is not making serious progress toward his education? Have you told him that if he is blowing off school then he will have to move out when he turns 18, or at least he will have to pay rent and utilities and other things at your home? If you make him pay rent, be aware that you will have to legally evict him if you want him to leave your home. It can take 30 days or more unless he is a danger to you and you can get a restraining order. I know that is hard to think about, but if drugs are an issue, our kids can become very dangerous. If you use, you generally sell to support your habit and that brings other users to you, which brings danger to you and puts everyone around you in serious danger. [/QUOTE]
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