Here is an interesting update:
C, the law advocate called the sp ed director. She asked if she wanted the good news (she was calling about another family too) or the bad news first. She asked to get it over with....
So, she asked if she knew about what Psycho was doing? Director said she probably doesn't want to know. (For those who are new: The school psychiatric has been inappropriate for a long time, grabbing, shoving and in the end we found out he restrained Q last year and didn't report it to me and then did it on the day I removed him following an incident. Turns out he was not one of the staff certified to do restraints and Q ended up with a face down hold, arms twisted behind his back and got a rug burn down the side of his face. This kind of hold is not allowed and the entire staff lied about it, how it happened and they told me he just had a little line from his glasses bow pressing into the side of his head. Our doctor took pics and measured it and YES, she DID end up calling CPS. I had already written a letter of concern to the district about the incidents I had witnessed and the law center had written a letter of concern about many issues in the school including him.)
SO, the director had told us that there was going to be action taken long ago.... I didn't really know if she was just saying that or not, but when she saw the pics she clearly had been shocked. She confessed to C that she had been lead to believe there was no real injury. (why then did they have to give him motrin for the sore wrist, shoulder and headache???)
OH one more thing...(edit)... C said to the director... I think from reading that restraint incident report that the two that did it (psychiatric and a sub both not certified to do restraints ) were doing that and then when mr sp ed came in he saw that they were not in compliance and THAT is why it says they turned him over "to prevent a prone restraint" which if he had to be turned over was clearly already done...so dumb. She said, she feels he was trying to get Q out of it and not wanting to come out and throw his fellow teachers under the bus. THe Special Education director just flat out said, YOU GOT THAT RIGHT.
Anyway, C told the director that psycho filed charges. She said WHEN? C told her the liason officer had called to inform me today and was including my info in the report. THe director did NOT hide her anger. She said she was really upset. She has no right to tell him he can't do it but she was ticked. She is the one who had told C long ago to have me write my concerns and C said in many years of working with her and giving her complaints she had never said that before so she thought something else was up.
Seems that he did get reprimanded. She can't say details but she flat out told C that this is blatant retaliation. She said NOW I can do something. In all this time she has not once tipped her hand and has always played it pretty neutral, with statements like rest assured we are looking into it etc.
Our home psychiatric and C both think he ended up realizing HE may need a lawyer and so that person probably gave him the advice that he needed to cover his butt and say he had very good reason to do what he did. Now, there was NO injury. She would have said, well you know he has been off work for weeks with a back injury or some such thing to defend if she really thought Q hurt him and she would cover the district. SHe wants no part of my getting angry because ultimately THEY should have said at the meetings where the plan (which by the way said Q can be aggressive and that is why we wrote the plan, NEVER a question that it is disability related) was written, by the way staff, the ONLY people allowed to handle any crisis are.... X, Y, etc... those who were certified. The admin at that school actually specifically picked this guy to repeatedly go deal with Q despite the fact that I had requested several times that he NEVER be alone with him and I had told the teacher, the asst. principal and mr sp ed admin (as well as two teachers) that I was totally uncomfortable with his being with Q.
I actually DO feel better. I am sure the lawyer could try to shut up the sp ed director but I suspect this guy is toast. I hope he really is NOT psycho and does not come after us and do something, I am not kidding when I say he is really off.
OK, to focus on the good.... Q's second day was not as smooth as the first, but it does seem he may have had a seizure. After he slept it off he did fine and he came to me and hugged me and we went to eat. He has not said ONE SINGLE ugly thing to me...not just hasn't touched me, he has not been verbally rude in any form all night! We have had a marvelous time. He went to his social skills group and he was too talkative for the other kids but he did fine....(medications wear off at that time so I will give them early).
He did ask me on the way home.... MOM, Was I just as scared as this in sixth grade when I started middle school??? I guess he is telling me he is feeling scared, duh. Nice he could talk about it.
. I hope he rots in H3LL.
