Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by crazymama30, Feb 9, 2008.

  1. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    difficult child had his little friend spend the night last night. About 1:00 this morning I hear difficult child yelling at his friend, "dude, why did you push me?" I go back to the room and the friend is saying " I did not push you"

    Many times difficult child has accused me, husband, or easy child of pushing him when he trips or slips and falls. We did not do anything, and many times are out of reach of difficult child and could not push him if we wanted to!! Does anyone have any clue what this is about? He is going to scare off his only friend, and not have a clue why. I will try to get husband to talk to difficult child about this.

    I always bothered me that he did this to us, but now to his friends too!!
  2. JJJ

    JJJ Active Member

    Could he be hallucinating? Kanga would accuse people of saying and doing things to her that couldn't have happened. Eventually it came out that she was hearing voices and seeing angels.
  3. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    Sorry for the late reply. I guess it could be, but I don't think so. This is the only instance of anything of its like. He does not accuse others of other things, except to say that so and so ate his candy, when really he just forgot he did. easy child, husband and I have all said similiar things. I am just really confused about the pushing thing. I was 15ft away from him once, he slipped on the ice and he accused me of pushing him!!
  4. pepperidge

    pepperidge New Member

    I wonder if it isn't maybe embarassment or a need of some sort to blame others when he screws up?
  5. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    Pepperidge, that was what I was thinking, I was just wondering if anyone else had ever had that problem. It must not have bothered his buddy too much, he's over now and they are playing tetherball outside.
  6. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    To know a difficult child is to know they NEVER make mistakes - even if it is something as simplistic as tripping and NOT falling - it isn't THEIR fault. They would rather blame the invisible ghost. I think in their minds they already do things so poorly that a potentially embarrassing situation where they "could" be laughed at (which most difficult child's can NOT take a joke either) would come off as catastrophic to them - to us we laugh and go on - they don't have those coping skills yet.
  7. tammyjh

    tammyjh New Member

    My difficult child blames everybody for everything....and I mean everything because nothing is ever her fault. As far as the pushing, if someone stumbles into her or is even nearby when she trips or slips, she'll blame whoever is there. I think she feels a little self counscious or like someone else mentioned, she's a bit embarrassed but I don't really get the significance of why she blames someone else...to take the attention off herself I guess.......not sure.
  8. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    Star and Tammy, thank you. It just makes no sense to me (guess I am not a difficult child). He willl admit to spilling something or not doing his homework, but not to tripping and falling!!?? Guess Ineed to accept it and move on.
  9. babybear

    babybear New Member

    My difficult child does that too. She used to fall down or run into the wall on purpose when I would have to escort her to a time out, then accuse me of pushing her.

    difficult child's are like the government...NEVER expect them to be logical!!