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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 77889" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: nvts</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Hi Susan! </p><p></p><p>Relax. On your signature, it says your 17 year old is a easy child. Seventeen year old guys have some sense. Set him up in your room Saturday morning and let him watch MTV's Bridezillas or that stupid show about sweet 16's. Tell him that this is what his sister is transforming into, and she'll be normal once the whole wedding fandango is over. Then make arrangements for him to have some friends over for a movie/pizza night, set him up for them to go to the movies, bowling, whatever. Let him know that HE'S still the important one and that you respect him for being kind about the whole thing. :bravo:</p><p></p><p>I beg you not to let this escalate into hard feelings. If her soon to be husband is this anal, she's going to need to be able to talk to you over the years feeling that she's not going to be judged for marrying this guy. If you throw this in his lap, and make a big to-do, she's NOT going to stay close. With some kids, this could jeaopardize your relationship not only with HER but with future grandchildren, etc. :hammer:</p><p></p><p>Could it be that this is just representing what you perceive to be the "final nail in the coffin" of the relationship that you have with her? She loves you, but right now (whether you're aware that you're doing it or not) IF the fiance is the one wanting this, you're making her choose between you and her future husband. This is not a confrontation or a memory that you want to plant. Smile big, know in your heart that you're right, and make it an enjoyable day. By the way, give PC17 (our hero) a camera and put HIM in charge of the "Family Photo Album" for the wedding and reception. He'll get shots that no paid photographer could get. Develop double prints and let him make an album for her as his gift for the wedding. Kill her with kindness...that always gets 'em! :wink:</p><p></p><p>Let us know how it goes! </p><p></p><p>Beth </div></div></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I agree!</p><p></p><p>Very short on time this morning.</p><p></p><p>I really like the Bridezilla idea, to help easy child understand.</p><p></p><p>Something tells me daughter does not feel any better about this than you do ~ but that she must defer to her husband to be on this one.</p><p></p><p>If she is sure this is what she wants, that is what you will need to do, I think.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 77889, member: 1721"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: nvts</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Hi Susan! Relax. On your signature, it says your 17 year old is a easy child. Seventeen year old guys have some sense. Set him up in your room Saturday morning and let him watch MTV's Bridezillas or that stupid show about sweet 16's. Tell him that this is what his sister is transforming into, and she'll be normal once the whole wedding fandango is over. Then make arrangements for him to have some friends over for a movie/pizza night, set him up for them to go to the movies, bowling, whatever. Let him know that HE'S still the important one and that you respect him for being kind about the whole thing. [img]:bravo:[/img] I beg you not to let this escalate into hard feelings. If her soon to be husband is this anal, she's going to need to be able to talk to you over the years feeling that she's not going to be judged for marrying this guy. If you throw this in his lap, and make a big to-do, she's NOT going to stay close. With some kids, this could jeaopardize your relationship not only with HER but with future grandchildren, etc. [img]:hammer:[/img] Could it be that this is just representing what you perceive to be the "final nail in the coffin" of the relationship that you have with her? She loves you, but right now (whether you're aware that you're doing it or not) IF the fiance is the one wanting this, you're making her choose between you and her future husband. This is not a confrontation or a memory that you want to plant. Smile big, know in your heart that you're right, and make it an enjoyable day. By the way, give PC17 (our hero) a camera and put HIM in charge of the "Family Photo Album" for the wedding and reception. He'll get shots that no paid photographer could get. Develop double prints and let him make an album for her as his gift for the wedding. Kill her with kindness...that always gets 'em! [img]:wink:[/img] Let us know how it goes! Beth </div></div> I agree! Very short on time this morning. I really like the Bridezilla idea, to help easy child understand. Something tells me daughter does not feel any better about this than you do ~ but that she must defer to her husband to be on this one. If she is sure this is what she wants, that is what you will need to do, I think. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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