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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 639592" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Don't baby her. Really. She's not in school. My daughter worked in retail and often worked ten hours a day and it was good for her.Yes, I have and would work the hours. My daughter has also had ten hour days, especially when she was a chef. Let her do it. She's had a long enough vacation laying around at home.</p><p></p><p>This is her decision, not yours. She is of age and many, many kids have jobs AND go to college. One of my daughter's bestest friends is a major easy child and goes to college full time AND works full time. She is happy, healthy, doing well on all fronts and has no time to get into trouble, not that she is inclined to do so. It is her decision. Her father was laid off and she wants to not only help save up for college, but wants to help her family. She is going to grow up to be a great young woman.</p><p></p><p>Once our kids turn eighteen, I don't believe we should make their healthy choices for them. Work and hours are their decisions. It does not involve us.</p><p></p><p>The only thing that would tick me off is if my daughter quit her job because "it's too hard." To me, translating "I don't have enough time to party." Your daughter is very young and healthy.</p><p></p><p>I would also add that I worked at a hospital and often had to work double shifts.</p><p></p><p>I do not think this is your territory at all. Let her grow up. If you get involved, you are showing her that you don't trust her to be able to work hard and to make her own decisions.</p><p></p><p>Yes, it is legal. She will be physically fine. You can't treat her like she is made of china. Many jobs, especially with our difficult children who have little education, require you to work hard and often, but it is a start to possibly becoming a store manager. My daughter was a hard worker and almost always became the store manager. When she no longer liked the work, she went back to college on her own dime, BUT she also worked part time and was long out of the house.</p><p></p><p>"Give them roots to grow and wings to fly."</p><p></p><p>Trust that you daughter CAN do this. She is not that little girl who you had to protect. The more you protect her, the more helpless she will become. The more you tell her that she is working too hard and it's not fair, the more she will use it and become overly dependent on you.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you. I hope you can let her be the adult that she is. Try to define what is your territory and wh at is hers. Write a list (I love my lists). Her work would not be in your category, at least not in my opinion.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 639592, member: 1550"] Don't baby her. Really. She's not in school. My daughter worked in retail and often worked ten hours a day and it was good for her.Yes, I have and would work the hours. My daughter has also had ten hour days, especially when she was a chef. Let her do it. She's had a long enough vacation laying around at home. This is her decision, not yours. She is of age and many, many kids have jobs AND go to college. One of my daughter's bestest friends is a major easy child and goes to college full time AND works full time. She is happy, healthy, doing well on all fronts and has no time to get into trouble, not that she is inclined to do so. It is her decision. Her father was laid off and she wants to not only help save up for college, but wants to help her family. She is going to grow up to be a great young woman. Once our kids turn eighteen, I don't believe we should make their healthy choices for them. Work and hours are their decisions. It does not involve us. The only thing that would tick me off is if my daughter quit her job because "it's too hard." To me, translating "I don't have enough time to party." Your daughter is very young and healthy. I would also add that I worked at a hospital and often had to work double shifts. I do not think this is your territory at all. Let her grow up. If you get involved, you are showing her that you don't trust her to be able to work hard and to make her own decisions. Yes, it is legal. She will be physically fine. You can't treat her like she is made of china. Many jobs, especially with our difficult children who have little education, require you to work hard and often, but it is a start to possibly becoming a store manager. My daughter was a hard worker and almost always became the store manager. When she no longer liked the work, she went back to college on her own dime, BUT she also worked part time and was long out of the house. "Give them roots to grow and wings to fly." Trust that you daughter CAN do this. She is not that little girl who you had to protect. The more you protect her, the more helpless she will become. The more you tell her that she is working too hard and it's not fair, the more she will use it and become overly dependent on you. Hugs to you. I hope you can let her be the adult that she is. Try to define what is your territory and wh at is hers. Write a list (I love my lists). Her work would not be in your category, at least not in my opinion. [/QUOTE]
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