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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 31087" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>I am thinking an evaluation might be premature for him at this point since the behaviors aren't causing serious functioning problems. Usually they won't evaluate unless there is at least one issue causing functioning problems for the child and I'm just not seeing that in your descriptions.</p><p></p><p>With the family history I would be very cautious, however, and if you see any recurring problems don't let it go very long wihtout digging for answers. Both anxiety and depression tend to run very strongly in families so if one or both would be present in a child it would be a great advantage to recognize that early. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Things to watch for:</p><p>-An increase in "irrational" fears such as the toilet clogging. This can go sky high very quickly and become very debilitating. </p><p>-Difficulty with transitions or changes in routines, such as when he goes off to school</p><p>-Language usage and comments getting in the way of social interactions. Sometimes kids who seem shy or to be standing off from other kids are actually doing so because they aren't naturally picking up on how to use social language. </p><p>-Any increase in defiance, tantrums, meltdowns that is causing functioning issues for him and/or for the family. </p><p>-Also watch for triggers (ie did he just watch a movie where toilets were involved or did he have a huge bowel movement) because sometimes you'll see patterns.</p><p></p><p>As for the toilet thing, since you have a firsthand knowledge of anxiety, I would recommend that when issues like these come up that you treat him like you want to be treated in situations that make you anxious--with understanding. Through the years my son has had some anxiety with things that I see as legitimate (fire) but also things that seemed silly (cabbage white butterflies) and those that seem inappropriate for his age/developmental stage (going to school all day). Over and over again I found that when I pushed him or demanded that he rise to the situation he not only wasn't able to, but that I usually added to his stress. When I backed down, took a different route, put something on hold, changed strategies, and gave him time, that's when he was able to make the most lasting progress. Also very helpful is finding ways to empower him to head off and/or fix any fearful areas. My son suddenly became hysterical over the level of water in the tub but a simple solution turned out to be to take a permanent marker and write instructions and arrows so he could turn off the knobs at any time. Maybe you could bring up a plunger and show that clogged toilets are going to be fixed. </p><p></p><p>Hope this helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 31087, member: 701"] I am thinking an evaluation might be premature for him at this point since the behaviors aren't causing serious functioning problems. Usually they won't evaluate unless there is at least one issue causing functioning problems for the child and I'm just not seeing that in your descriptions. With the family history I would be very cautious, however, and if you see any recurring problems don't let it go very long wihtout digging for answers. Both anxiety and depression tend to run very strongly in families so if one or both would be present in a child it would be a great advantage to recognize that early. Things to watch for: -An increase in "irrational" fears such as the toilet clogging. This can go sky high very quickly and become very debilitating. -Difficulty with transitions or changes in routines, such as when he goes off to school -Language usage and comments getting in the way of social interactions. Sometimes kids who seem shy or to be standing off from other kids are actually doing so because they aren't naturally picking up on how to use social language. -Any increase in defiance, tantrums, meltdowns that is causing functioning issues for him and/or for the family. -Also watch for triggers (ie did he just watch a movie where toilets were involved or did he have a huge bowel movement) because sometimes you'll see patterns. As for the toilet thing, since you have a firsthand knowledge of anxiety, I would recommend that when issues like these come up that you treat him like you want to be treated in situations that make you anxious--with understanding. Through the years my son has had some anxiety with things that I see as legitimate (fire) but also things that seemed silly (cabbage white butterflies) and those that seem inappropriate for his age/developmental stage (going to school all day). Over and over again I found that when I pushed him or demanded that he rise to the situation he not only wasn't able to, but that I usually added to his stress. When I backed down, took a different route, put something on hold, changed strategies, and gave him time, that's when he was able to make the most lasting progress. Also very helpful is finding ways to empower him to head off and/or fix any fearful areas. My son suddenly became hysterical over the level of water in the tub but a simple solution turned out to be to take a permanent marker and write instructions and arrows so he could turn off the knobs at any time. Maybe you could bring up a plunger and show that clogged toilets are going to be fixed. Hope this helps. [/QUOTE]
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