but it's not really about that. I was told today at middle difficult child's annual IEP meeting that we "had" to do the transition piece of the IEP even though she is being retained. Now I say this because I, as well as her treatment team (psychiatrist, therapist, para-professional) all agree she is not ready socially or emotionally to move on. Not only that but she is not capable of doing the math portion and struggles with the NC state writing skills requirement. She failed the state test last year (yet they promoted her then too). They said they can't really say if she will be retained or not yet until the EOG tests scores come back (testing begins next week on them). I said what does it matter what the scores are? We are not agreeing that she can go forward. They are making it seem like (to me) like they are going to try and push her forward and perhaps if the EOG scores actually (by a miracle) are ok, they will try to use them to justify pushing her. I also asked them what the writing test score was (she had to retake the test this year). "Oh, we haven't gotten them back yet!" Are they correct? Did I "have" to do the transition piece for middle school anyway? Some how I think I was bamboozled. Oh yeah, and.....I gave the school therapist a copy of her total evaluation on Monday (at end of little dude's 504 meeting) to give out to the meeting members for today's meeting as per their request. She NEVER gave any one a copy of it and when we went in there today we didn't know it so 3/4's of the way through the meeting we learn this because things weren't making sense as we didn't understand why they couldn't understand where we were coming from on many different areas of new needs. A big "aha" moment happened. They said they (the principal) will track it down and we will reconvene and do and addendum if necessary to the IEP we had created. Over all I am satisfied with the one we did create so I don't think it impacted it much other then us feeling like perhaps they though we were a little nuts and "maybe, just maybe" they may also understand even more so why we want her retained. She should have been last year. Definitely this year as she can not enter middle school as she is now.