Ladies....I have a question..... Today my mom and step dad went to his urologist as they knew they were going to set up surgery to because he has a mass on his bladder. He has NOT had a biopsy yet. He is a Vietnam Vet with agent orange exposure, just an extra piece of information that is semi relevant because assumptions can be made from it. He didn't end up seeing the Dr but the PA instead. After waiting over 2 hours because they were behind, the PA comes in and gives them the date and says "we're going to go in and take the cancer out!" HUH??? This is what I want to know. How does that sound to ya'll? It sounded....well beyond bad patient manners for one, potentially unethical, and I don't even know what! How could he come out and say something like that to someone who has been so worried about it, doesn't even KNOW if it's cancer yet? Isn't Bladder cancer one of them that stands a better chance? Perhaps I'm confused on that. Isn't there suppose to be some special way of "counseling" a person with cancer or potential cancer in how you treat or tell them? This was really harsh to a very mild mannered man who has been scared out of his wits. They both left extremely upset, my mother ready to go over another edge but knowing she has to be strong for him and I'm trying to help her cope and calm and see the through the mess that just happened. update: he had a scope done found out- was that a biopsy? If so wouldn't they have told him after that? If not and THIS was the "telling" is it still the way to do it? I'm just concerned for them and would like to guide them the best direction now forward. Advise please?