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<blockquote data-quote="Seeking Peace" data-source="post: 674447" data-attributes="member: 19374"><p>I've wanted to respond all day! First, to thank every single one of you for being here on this forum!! I harbored these feeling for days before putting it out here. And I felt if I could just put out here, all of you would help me. And you did and have in so many ways.</p><p></p><p>I've never admitted my resentment or being so guarded any other place than here because I've always felt like I would be judged as a mother. God knows I have been repeatedly by others. But it's different here because all of you are on the same road as I am.</p><p></p><p>I truly use to believe environment shaped an individual more than genetics. That given the opportunity people can really succeed. And I would imagine this to still be true in some cases. But then my daughter really started showing disturbing behaviors that could not be explained. The older she became the worse things turned till finally I was staring at my ex, her bio-dad. That is when it was really in my face. A child who's bio-dad has not been there since age 2, but she was exhibiting the same behaviors. Then, by that time, I had my son, who raised in the same environment was (is) so compassionate and loving. </p><p></p><p>Those who asked how he is; he is wonderful. Super smart, athletic and kind and gentle. I call him my little Labrador. The last time my daughter was home (February) he even asked us point blank why we tolerate it? That she had no respect for us. And while we know that, it really strikes a cord when your 13 year old feels the need to question. Fear of him losing his way and acting out since he saw us excusing daughter's behavior and him deserving a safe home where he can rest without all the drama, made us draw a line for the last time.</p><p></p><p>She has bounced from home to home...and maybe because it looks like places have really ran out now is why I feel so down and guilty. Her officially being on the street is a first for me. I know many of you have crossed this bridge too, and I cannot imagine it ever gets easier....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Seeking Peace, post: 674447, member: 19374"] I've wanted to respond all day! First, to thank every single one of you for being here on this forum!! I harbored these feeling for days before putting it out here. And I felt if I could just put out here, all of you would help me. And you did and have in so many ways. I've never admitted my resentment or being so guarded any other place than here because I've always felt like I would be judged as a mother. God knows I have been repeatedly by others. But it's different here because all of you are on the same road as I am. I truly use to believe environment shaped an individual more than genetics. That given the opportunity people can really succeed. And I would imagine this to still be true in some cases. But then my daughter really started showing disturbing behaviors that could not be explained. The older she became the worse things turned till finally I was staring at my ex, her bio-dad. That is when it was really in my face. A child who's bio-dad has not been there since age 2, but she was exhibiting the same behaviors. Then, by that time, I had my son, who raised in the same environment was (is) so compassionate and loving. Those who asked how he is; he is wonderful. Super smart, athletic and kind and gentle. I call him my little Labrador. The last time my daughter was home (February) he even asked us point blank why we tolerate it? That she had no respect for us. And while we know that, it really strikes a cord when your 13 year old feels the need to question. Fear of him losing his way and acting out since he saw us excusing daughter's behavior and him deserving a safe home where he can rest without all the drama, made us draw a line for the last time. She has bounced from home to home...and maybe because it looks like places have really ran out now is why I feel so down and guilty. Her officially being on the street is a first for me. I know many of you have crossed this bridge too, and I cannot imagine it ever gets easier.... [/QUOTE]
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