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Questioning therapist's intentions-thoughts pls
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 76081" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>{{{Janet}}} If my difficult child shared a story or past similar to yours I would likely be a lot more sympathetic. And also, if she at least was interested in actually doing the work necessary to move past the horrible incidents she leans on, I would again be more sympathetic. </p><p></p><p>The fact of the matter is that difficult child grew up in a very loving, supportive and nurturing home...due in large part because I divorced her father and remarried. </p><p></p><p>This is not to say that everything was always rosy (we had H's alcoholism/sobriety to deal with along the way as well as difficult child's behaviors), but it was far from traumatic. Also, leading up to the assault, difficult child was engaging in very risky/risque behaviors and despite knowing better, she chose to pursue a friendship with her assailant, which ultimately led to her assault. Now, granted, she may have used poor judegment in conversing and leaving town with a stranger, but she certainly is not at fault for the actual assault. And she was only 15 and he was very good at what he was doing.</p><p></p><p>I think if difficult child had suffered a string of traumatic events, it would be very different. However, I think that difficult child is mostly using her difficult child status along with typical teen self centeredness to be free to do what she wants, when she wants, with whom she wants, etc., all without a care for how it effects those around her. And I think she playing the therapist like a violin. I truly hesitate to make that appointment, but I will if for no other reason than to call difficult child on her behavior in front of the counselor.</p><p></p><p>Thanks everyone for your input - at least I know I'm not going crazy. Well, sorta.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 76081, member: 2211"] {{{Janet}}} If my difficult child shared a story or past similar to yours I would likely be a lot more sympathetic. And also, if she at least was interested in actually doing the work necessary to move past the horrible incidents she leans on, I would again be more sympathetic. The fact of the matter is that difficult child grew up in a very loving, supportive and nurturing home...due in large part because I divorced her father and remarried. This is not to say that everything was always rosy (we had H's alcoholism/sobriety to deal with along the way as well as difficult child's behaviors), but it was far from traumatic. Also, leading up to the assault, difficult child was engaging in very risky/risque behaviors and despite knowing better, she chose to pursue a friendship with her assailant, which ultimately led to her assault. Now, granted, she may have used poor judegment in conversing and leaving town with a stranger, but she certainly is not at fault for the actual assault. And she was only 15 and he was very good at what he was doing. I think if difficult child had suffered a string of traumatic events, it would be very different. However, I think that difficult child is mostly using her difficult child status along with typical teen self centeredness to be free to do what she wants, when she wants, with whom she wants, etc., all without a care for how it effects those around her. And I think she playing the therapist like a violin. I truly hesitate to make that appointment, but I will if for no other reason than to call difficult child on her behavior in front of the counselor. Thanks everyone for your input - at least I know I'm not going crazy. Well, sorta. [/QUOTE]
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