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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 75623" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Oh, just wanted to add that I was not especially looking forward to difficult child coming home--it was so nice without her there and knowing she was safe somewhere else. Also, her younger sister did not want her home and she had good reason for that--she had been abused by difficult child 1 and did not feel secure with her there. difficult child 1 came and went for awhile and this was really hard on difficult child 2. She never knew when difficult child 1 would decide to come live with us and she couldn't address her dissociative symptoms in such an uncertain environment. I felt empowered when I finally decided that difficult child 2 had to come first. She had come second for so long because she was such a "good" kid for so many years. I kept focusing on difficult child 1 and trying to help her and save her from herself. When I decided that difficult child 2's needs came first and that her need was for her sister to be out of her life I found the courage to let go of difficult child 1. Please don't let your difficult child's siblings take a back seat--they have the right to live in a nourishing environment.</p><p>Thanks,</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 75623, member: 3450"] Oh, just wanted to add that I was not especially looking forward to difficult child coming home--it was so nice without her there and knowing she was safe somewhere else. Also, her younger sister did not want her home and she had good reason for that--she had been abused by difficult child 1 and did not feel secure with her there. difficult child 1 came and went for awhile and this was really hard on difficult child 2. She never knew when difficult child 1 would decide to come live with us and she couldn't address her dissociative symptoms in such an uncertain environment. I felt empowered when I finally decided that difficult child 2 had to come first. She had come second for so long because she was such a "good" kid for so many years. I kept focusing on difficult child 1 and trying to help her and save her from herself. When I decided that difficult child 2's needs came first and that her need was for her sister to be out of her life I found the courage to let go of difficult child 1. Please don't let your difficult child's siblings take a back seat--they have the right to live in a nourishing environment. Thanks, Jane [/QUOTE]
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