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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 24466" data-attributes="member: 3"><p><span style='font-size: 11pt'>First off, I'm glad I'm not the only one who looks back and says "why? what's different?" Thanks for not making me feel crazy. I am in no way trying to asign blame or guilt. I am just thinking of generations of women who worked to survive with their babies nearby. I'm looking for the differences in that group and my group and the next group. </p><p></p><p>Making super babies always made me laugh. I couldn't make my kids potty train. LOL. If they were not inclined they would not do it. No how, no way. Both of my sons have very distinct minds of their own. For the most part I let them lead the way to their own development. I'm just the overseeing security blanket and nurturer.(well,maybe nudger too). I know that making either of them play a musical instrument or a sport that they did not want to do, they would not do it. There was no fear of displeasing mom. They simply wouldn't. It's annoying as heck and in some cases to difficult child's detriment but I'm pretty sure they are not inclined to follow anyone or succumb to peer pressure. They are simply such stone heads that they will do what they believe and no one will convince them otherwise. Those that think that if their kids can do something at 5 indicates they are going to be exceptional are pretty much kidding themselves. I'm not talking prodigy. Those kids are rare and are inclined to find their way with or without parental help. I'm pretty sure that we have seen only one or two prodigy's on this site. They have unique parenting needs. So if playing Mozart to your baby in utero makes a new mom think she is making a super baby- go for it. It doesn't hurt but I'm pretty sure it does not create prodigies. </p><p></p><p>Certainly keeping them unexposed to stimuli is a proven negative. It makes sense that the other extreme would be equally negative. So where is the middle ground? </p><p></p><p>My difficult child's hyperactivity really showed itself once difficult child didn't have the restraint of not walking. Once limitations were overcome he had no boundaries and he didn't set them himself.He was an exuberant baby and he set about exploring the world with same enthusiasm and lack of cause and effect or fear. I set the concern for difficult child at 8 months. He had the first of 4 febrile seizures. I don't know if that triggered the change but it was my first experience that difficult child was different. Until then we often said we were "blessed" by such a sunny, good natured baby. It was less and less a sunny experience as difficult child was more mobile. He never walked, he lurched and ran. I don't think that I overstimulated him to tell the truth but I just wondered about differences throughout time in babies,parents and the inability of my hyperactive child to not be able to focus enough on anything mundane to complete it. It always has to capture him to the point of hyperfocus for difficult child to actually invest himself in doing something. </p><p>Oh well, I'm just thinking. </span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 24466, member: 3"] <span style='font-size: 11pt'>First off, I'm glad I'm not the only one who looks back and says "why? what's different?" Thanks for not making me feel crazy. I am in no way trying to asign blame or guilt. I am just thinking of generations of women who worked to survive with their babies nearby. I'm looking for the differences in that group and my group and the next group. Making super babies always made me laugh. I couldn't make my kids potty train. LOL. If they were not inclined they would not do it. No how, no way. Both of my sons have very distinct minds of their own. For the most part I let them lead the way to their own development. I'm just the overseeing security blanket and nurturer.(well,maybe nudger too). I know that making either of them play a musical instrument or a sport that they did not want to do, they would not do it. There was no fear of displeasing mom. They simply wouldn't. It's annoying as heck and in some cases to difficult child's detriment but I'm pretty sure they are not inclined to follow anyone or succumb to peer pressure. They are simply such stone heads that they will do what they believe and no one will convince them otherwise. Those that think that if their kids can do something at 5 indicates they are going to be exceptional are pretty much kidding themselves. I'm not talking prodigy. Those kids are rare and are inclined to find their way with or without parental help. I'm pretty sure that we have seen only one or two prodigy's on this site. They have unique parenting needs. So if playing Mozart to your baby in utero makes a new mom think she is making a super baby- go for it. It doesn't hurt but I'm pretty sure it does not create prodigies. Certainly keeping them unexposed to stimuli is a proven negative. It makes sense that the other extreme would be equally negative. So where is the middle ground? My difficult child's hyperactivity really showed itself once difficult child didn't have the restraint of not walking. Once limitations were overcome he had no boundaries and he didn't set them himself.He was an exuberant baby and he set about exploring the world with same enthusiasm and lack of cause and effect or fear. I set the concern for difficult child at 8 months. He had the first of 4 febrile seizures. I don't know if that triggered the change but it was my first experience that difficult child was different. Until then we often said we were "blessed" by such a sunny, good natured baby. It was less and less a sunny experience as difficult child was more mobile. He never walked, he lurched and ran. I don't think that I overstimulated him to tell the truth but I just wondered about differences throughout time in babies,parents and the inability of my hyperactive child to not be able to focus enough on anything mundane to complete it. It always has to capture him to the point of hyperfocus for difficult child to actually invest himself in doing something. Oh well, I'm just thinking. </span> [/QUOTE]
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