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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 652964" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I know how you feel. When my Difficult Child posts things on FB about how much he hates his life I too wonder and what are you doing to change things. I suppose until they get really sick and tired of the way they are living nothing will change for them.</p><p> </p><p>My husband and I bent over backwards for our son, I lost count of how many (second chances) we gave him. We too paid for places for him to live and all we expected was for him to get a job. He did actually have a few jobs but in his true fashion he blew it. You see with my son he truly thinks he knows more than everyone. He was working in a warehouse at a furniture store, they took a chance on him knowing that he was a convicted felon. After a couple of months he announces that he's quiting because "the owner has no clue how to run a business and I can't work for someone like that".</p><p>Seriously!!! The owner has had the same business for close to 40 years, obviously he's doing something right. That statement coming from someone who has yet to hold a job for longer than 6 months!!</p><p> </p><p>I think you and Lil are going through the needed motions of doing everything you can to help him but until he truly wants to apply effort to his life nothing will change for him.</p><p> </p><p>My son a few times tried to say that husband and I never cared about him, that we didn't love him to which I quickly pointed out all that we have done for him and that we did those things out of love and concern. Your son may also try to say you never helped him but you did and that's something he can't use as an excuse.</p><p> </p><p>I think it's great that you are seeing that you and Lil need some help dealing with this. You are both such wonderful people, you have given so much to try and help your son but it's time to start helping yourselves in order to take your lives back.</p><p> </p><p>June 1st will be a hard one. I'm sure your son does not really grasp that you will not be re-signing the lease and he will have to figure things out for himself.</p><p> </p><p>You have done all you can and then some.</p><p> </p><p>Hang in there!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 652964, member: 18516"] I know how you feel. When my Difficult Child posts things on FB about how much he hates his life I too wonder and what are you doing to change things. I suppose until they get really sick and tired of the way they are living nothing will change for them. My husband and I bent over backwards for our son, I lost count of how many (second chances) we gave him. We too paid for places for him to live and all we expected was for him to get a job. He did actually have a few jobs but in his true fashion he blew it. You see with my son he truly thinks he knows more than everyone. He was working in a warehouse at a furniture store, they took a chance on him knowing that he was a convicted felon. After a couple of months he announces that he's quiting because "the owner has no clue how to run a business and I can't work for someone like that". Seriously!!! The owner has had the same business for close to 40 years, obviously he's doing something right. That statement coming from someone who has yet to hold a job for longer than 6 months!! I think you and Lil are going through the needed motions of doing everything you can to help him but until he truly wants to apply effort to his life nothing will change for him. My son a few times tried to say that husband and I never cared about him, that we didn't love him to which I quickly pointed out all that we have done for him and that we did those things out of love and concern. Your son may also try to say you never helped him but you did and that's something he can't use as an excuse. I think it's great that you are seeing that you and Lil need some help dealing with this. You are both such wonderful people, you have given so much to try and help your son but it's time to start helping yourselves in order to take your lives back. June 1st will be a hard one. I'm sure your son does not really grasp that you will not be re-signing the lease and he will have to figure things out for himself. You have done all you can and then some. Hang in there!!!! [/QUOTE]
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