Janet, she is going for full legal and physical custody and has done a lot of parental alientaion that he can prove. We have been told that in a trial like this one, he needs a lawyer or he'll lose by default. He has no idea how to cross examine his ex, for example. This isn't a simple custody case. She is fighting to the death to keep his son out of his life. I don't know what the result will be. I'm worn out. I am usually on good terms with ex, but when it comes to money, he freaks out and always thinks he's going broke, even though he has a lot of money. He is kind of Aspie-ish...you can't reason with him. He'll say crazy things like "35 should just put a hit on his ex!" Wow. Useful.