Newbie! Just learning the lingo, etc so bear with me! My difficult child is almost 20. Was a joy as a young child, a bit challenging in elementary school - had some impulsivity issues. In middle school he began getting in trouble - by 8th grade he had his first arrest for pot and entered 6 months of IOP. By the middle of summer between 8th and 9th grade he was using heavily. We spent $$$ for out of state residential treatment. He ran away 9 months into it (had been progressing nicely at that point!), and spent 2 months in Juvie out of state. Long story short he started University this past Sept 2012. We bought him a car as he needed to commute - within 3 weeks he had 2 OWI's and a charge of felony possession of narcotics. We have been dealing with the aftermath ever since. He spent 6 days in jail in Detroit last week for probation violation and is currently home on tether. It has not had the desired effect - he is still using whatever he can get his hands on - I had to lock up the cooking Sherry! I still think that one day he has potential to become a easy child but it is getting harder to imagine. He has robbed us blind, lies like rug and I just want him gone. We pray that when he is sentenced it will be into court ordered rehab - they are talking about drug court but I think he will find ways around that.