I am struggling with the oppinions of my difficult child's teachers and counselors. He has excelled at school until the last month this year. His grades dropped from E's to N's. I recently re-married and his case manager that stayed with him at school left at the end of April. My new husband is being blamed for the quick deterioration in his behavior. I don't want to be defensive, but I feel they have not given him all the help he needs. And what about his case manager leaving?! Does that not affect his behavior at all?! Also, my new husband thinks that yelling at the kids is ok and a good form of punishment. We argue alot about this subject because my EX and I have always told our difficult child that it is not ok to yell and we have always apologized if we lost our tempers and raised our voice. I feel this is a form of self control that we can demonstrate to him. We have to take responsibilty for our actions-even parents. I HATE it when he yells at my difficult child. We do have a counselor we can see to help with this, but I feel like it is an on going problem. We are both very hard headed. Any advice??