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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 728541" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Agree. No right or wrong answer.</p><p></p><p>I'm sure like our son did, your son doesn't think "he is <em>that </em>bad". He is working etc. And "you don't understand" the need to party. Husband and I did plenty of partying when we were young but it never took over our lives because we were not addicted to anything.</p><p></p><p>My son has been sober for 5 months now and his fog is lifting. He said that part of him wanted to get sober and part of him didn't. This has been going on for 7 years and he is 22. He is where he is because husband literally drove away and left him in the parking lot of the program we had set up for him. We sent him away to go to sober living in 2016 and he just could not stay sober more than 3 months. I really do think that he tried but addiction is truly and illness.</p><p></p><p>A therapist in a rehab he was in in Florida (after not doing well in sober living) who was a former addict said that <strong>we </strong>do not wait until <strong>he </strong>is ready. That could take many many years, if ever. She was married with a baby and said what she needed her parents to do for her to turn it around. That is when we took the firmest stand ever and he is doing better than he has since he was 15. He looks amazing and he is realizing so many things now for the first time. We are hopeful.</p><p></p><p>Do what you need to do. Every story is different and every one of us is different.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 728541, member: 15032"] Agree. No right or wrong answer. I'm sure like our son did, your son doesn't think "he is [I]that [/I]bad". He is working etc. And "you don't understand" the need to party. Husband and I did plenty of partying when we were young but it never took over our lives because we were not addicted to anything. My son has been sober for 5 months now and his fog is lifting. He said that part of him wanted to get sober and part of him didn't. This has been going on for 7 years and he is 22. He is where he is because husband literally drove away and left him in the parking lot of the program we had set up for him. We sent him away to go to sober living in 2016 and he just could not stay sober more than 3 months. I really do think that he tried but addiction is truly and illness. A therapist in a rehab he was in in Florida (after not doing well in sober living) who was a former addict said that [B]we [/B]do not wait until [B]he [/B]is ready. That could take many many years, if ever. She was married with a baby and said what she needed her parents to do for her to turn it around. That is when we took the firmest stand ever and he is doing better than he has since he was 15. He looks amazing and he is realizing so many things now for the first time. We are hopeful. Do what you need to do. Every story is different and every one of us is different. [/QUOTE]
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