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Reality of our age...I'm always behind it seems.
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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 32481" data-attributes="member: 3"><p><span style='font-size: 11pt'>I'm almost 52. I really didn't appreciate how it feels for the world to see you as "older" until I hit 50. It's strange. In my 40's I worried that I'd pick out clothes that were too frumpy. In my 50's I worry that I will pick clothes that are too young for me and I will look ridiculous.No one wants to be a joke. Not that this is important but it's an indication of a change in mindset. </p><p>My in laws and mother will all turn 80 in the next 6 months. They are all sharp. My mom while robust suffers with back issues to the point she requires a walker. She is difficult child enough that she still works one day a week. In laws got incredibly frail in the last year. They have come to realize that they will need some services from now on. Hopefully it will be arranged. It has always been my expectation that we will care for our parents if we need to do so. My dad was here for 3 yrs and passed away in my home, as he wanted it. I had a plan.</p><p>Working in a hospital always seemed to prepare me that people age or leave us. Be grateful(as I am) that it wasn't too young. Enjoy that you have them now.</p><p>I think looking at the future and seeing the obvious and making a mental plan of what you want to do and say is a good thing. Appreciate every day they are able to be with you even if it is by phone. </p><p> So many don't want to think about illness and the inevitable. I have never been that way. I want to be prepared. I ask about living wills and their medical wishes, just as I share my wishes in the event I can no longer make my own decisions. We have talked among ourselves of what is to be done if parents can't make choices themselves. </p><p>I know it is painful but having a plan takes some of the fear out of the future with parents. It doesn't make it hurt less but it gives you a sense of ability to weather the storm. Hope you don't have to deal with this for a very long time. Hugs. </span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 32481, member: 3"] <span style='font-size: 11pt'>I'm almost 52. I really didn't appreciate how it feels for the world to see you as "older" until I hit 50. It's strange. In my 40's I worried that I'd pick out clothes that were too frumpy. In my 50's I worry that I will pick clothes that are too young for me and I will look ridiculous.No one wants to be a joke. Not that this is important but it's an indication of a change in mindset. My in laws and mother will all turn 80 in the next 6 months. They are all sharp. My mom while robust suffers with back issues to the point she requires a walker. She is difficult child enough that she still works one day a week. In laws got incredibly frail in the last year. They have come to realize that they will need some services from now on. Hopefully it will be arranged. It has always been my expectation that we will care for our parents if we need to do so. My dad was here for 3 yrs and passed away in my home, as he wanted it. I had a plan. Working in a hospital always seemed to prepare me that people age or leave us. Be grateful(as I am) that it wasn't too young. Enjoy that you have them now. I think looking at the future and seeing the obvious and making a mental plan of what you want to do and say is a good thing. Appreciate every day they are able to be with you even if it is by phone. So many don't want to think about illness and the inevitable. I have never been that way. I want to be prepared. I ask about living wills and their medical wishes, just as I share my wishes in the event I can no longer make my own decisions. We have talked among ourselves of what is to be done if parents can't make choices themselves. I know it is painful but having a plan takes some of the fear out of the future with parents. It doesn't make it hurt less but it gives you a sense of ability to weather the storm. Hope you don't have to deal with this for a very long time. Hugs. </span> [/QUOTE]
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