Since difficult child has been gone - it has been amazingly peaceful in my home. My son is coming out of his bedroom more and just seems so much happier. How sad that one person could be so toxic on a household. She texted me over the weekend saying she wanted to come home. I said absolutely not. That I had arranged for her to have a home up north. She then asked if she went up north, could she take her doggie. Nana said yes, so she was going to bring doggie and go to Nana's house. I then get a text that night stating she has found a place to live and that her and a friend were geting an apartment. Can you say delusional?? The girl has never had a job in her entire life, never mind being able to hold one and pay bills! She went to her PO yesterday - on her own - one positive step! PO calls me and says difficult child wants to come home. Again, I tell her I cannot trust this child in my home and I refuse to have some one in my home that I am supporting that looks at us and tells us to f off, etc. difficult child calls me after the appointment and said PO was lying, she does not want to come home, we don't want her here, etc. She wanted more clothes so I told her on two different occasions yesterday that she could come by in the evening while we are home, or the next afternoon while I was home. What did she do? Leaves the PO office, sits outside of the house waiting for my son to come home from school and waltzes right in the house behind him!! This further proves to me that any rule I set WILL indeed be broken. My son told me that she was saying that everyone in her family hates her. I don't hate her and I know she may feel that way. I am mad. Still very, very mad. How could I not be?? I feel so violated! She had this person in my ome going through my things and in my bedroom going through my things!! It hasn't even been a week - she has not learned a thing. I checked the cell records and she is on the phone all day and all night - she has not slept in days. I know she only wants to come home to crash. BUt my heart strings are pulled everytime I hear her say you don't want me there (which is true - just very sad), or that we hate her. I could never hate her. With all she has already put me through, I could never hate her. Anyway, my issue is that her PO said we are responsible for her until she actually turns 17 in a month. I have to go to court for her shoplifting charge this Friday. We have a feeling the judge is going to force us to bring her back here. I cannot go back to how we were. I just can't. I told her PO she can come back home after she has completed a 90 day rehab program and sees a psychiatrist for MUCH needed medications (she was a completely different person on prozac and I am DYING to have that girl back again!). PO says they cannot force her to do that. What???? Um, Lindsay Lohan??? What do you mean they can't order that?? So, now what?? I am supposed to allow this girl back into my home wreaking the same havoc she did before? And what does this teach her? That she can say what ever she wants to us, behave how ever she wants, and we will have to let her live here? What sense does that make? What in the world do I do? My husband is worried if I tell the judge she cannot come back here that child services will get involved and we will lose our other child. I do not see how that could possibly happen but that is his fear. I am panicked here and I don't know what to do - any help is greatly appreciated!!!