Hello everyone. I'm really glad to have found this forum! My problem is not about me, but about my Mom. I know she is the only one who can change her situation, there is nothing I can do directly, but I am so worried about her and I guess I just need to vent, so please bear with me. My brother is 50 and moved in with Mom just before Christmas. Mom survives on a basic State Pension of around £100 a week, plus a pension credit of £25 a week. She divorced my step father about 16 years ago, and moved to the small market town where I lived so she could be close to me and my new baby and toddler. The divorce was amicable and they remained fond of each other. My brother carried on living with my step father in the house my step~father owned. My brother has never lived an independent life, never had a full time job, never had a romantic relationship and always looked to others to provide for him. My brother has worked a series of low paid jobs, very part time, which allowed him time to pursue his 'other interests'. He never paid my step father any rent. My brother has had good job opportunities handed to him in the past but has always turned them down. My step~father passed away 2 and a half years ago, and my brother carried on living in the house, now inherited by my 2 step brothers. After a period of grace, my step brother asked my brother to move out of the house. My brother refused and wouldn't talk to my step brother. Meanwhile, the house is deteriorating and needs all kinds of repairs. My brother never paid any rent, so my step~father and step~brother could not afford to have repairs carried out. My step brother had to resort to legal action to get my brother evicted and my brother asked Mom's elderly siblings to let him live with them. When they refused, my brother was surprised and angry, saying that they should take him in as he is family. My mother made it clear that she would not see my brother living on the streets, and has taken him in. She lives in a local authority house and had her rent subsidised due to low income. She's informed the authorities that he's living with her now and so she has lost her pension credit, lost her single person's discount on her council tax and had her rent increased to the full amount of £117 per week. This is more than her State Pension. The increase has been back dated to when he moved in (middle of December), so now she owes about £900. She told my brother that she could not afford to keep him unless he pays his way. She has savings of about £6,000 which will not last very long at this rate. He has savings of more than £16,000, not sure of the amount, but it's enough not to qualify for benefits in his own right. The council have told him to privately rent, they cannot help him. When Mom told my brother about the mounting debts, he mumbled something about going to the council 'if he has time'. He's carried on working at his zero hours contract job in the next city, but it takes him 3 hours to commute there on public transport, taking 2 buses (he does not drive) and 3 hours to commute back. Some days, he does not even earn enough to cover his bus fare! He says he hates the market town Mom lives in, and wants to move back to the city. But he makes no effort to do so. He might be able to afford a room in a shared house in the city, but thinks that a shared house is beneath him. Myself and my partner offered to help him find accommodation in the city, pointing him in the direction of government agencies that could help him with benefits as such, but he thanked us for our advice and did nothing. I have had a tricky relationship with my brother, ever since my teens when he chased me around the house with a knife on more than one occasion, and I locked myself in the bathroom to be safe. Mom did not protect me, and I married young and left home. He did not speak to me for years, despite living in the same house. I was afraid of him, so is Mom, she never stood up to him. He banned me and my (then) husband from the house (her house), so that we could not even visit at Christmas. Mom tried to reason with him and persuade him to let us come, but my brother put his foot down and refused. She felt so bad that she tried to give us money for a hotel, which we of course declined. He's never been formally diagnosed with a mental disorder, but we all know something is not right with him. He is unpredictable and volatile, thinks the world 'owes' him, has some funny ideas about people, has unrealistic expectations about his life (he wanted to be an athlete, but didn't train seriously, wanted to be an author, but didn't write anything, wanted to be a podiatrist, even got a degree in it, but never applied for any jobs once he graduated). I think he's approaching his mid life crisis just as Mom is entering her 80's. She's in poor health now, and I worry. He's openly disrespectful to her, even in public, patting her on the head and saying in a baby voice, "You don't understand a word I'm saying, do you?" It's horrible to watch. My sons, who are 16 and 19 now, think he's loser and have no time for him. My Mom is losing her relationship with her grandsons, who she loves very much, because of this. It feels as though she has 'chosen' my brother over us. At the moment, myself and my partner provide a listening ear for Mom. I'm not sure what else we can do. The situation will reach crisis point soon. My brother does not give her any money for rent, food or utilities. She has always been frugal, shopping at charity shops and being careful with money. She can't afford to provide for him. My fear is that she will do so until her own savings run out and she will be evicted from the house, unable to pay the rent. She will lose the way of life she has spent the last 16 years building up in her adopted market town. I don't know what will happen then. Mom is beside herself with worry.