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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 622942" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>BITS, every day I spend at least an hour on my own recovery. That is how I think of it. It's like part of my daily job. For me that means, going to an Al-Anon meeting, reading books, Al-anon or otherwise, posting/reading here. My blog for Lent has turned into another spiritual tool for me---getting rid of 40 things a day for 40 days. I also exercise. I do run (I'm slow!) and I do yoga, and weight lifting (two days a week) and work in the yard. Right now I'm doing a 7-part marathon here in my town, centered around coffee shops, and SO and I have been walking each "leg"---they all total 26.2 miles. We've done it over two months.</p><p>I go to church, and I try to do things for other people. I'm in grad school (one class at a time!) and I have my own business which keeps me busy. I go on little weekend trips with girlfriends. I am in the process of trying to get together for lunch, dinner, coffee with old friends again---for a long time I isolated because of the pain of difficult child and also the shame and embarrassment. I am very blessed to have a great SO who is also in recovery--he gives me tremendous support and lets me cry when I need to. I did get a sponsor in Al-Anon because I felt at one point I was unloading too much onto SO, and I didn't want our entire relationship to be about my wayward son. I also read a lot of light fiction, take bubble baths every night, try to get a lot of sleep, eat fairly well. I love sweets and that's my downfall! I also am finding that honesty is important for me. I don't mean telling everything to everybody but being more honest with myself, about what I want, how I want to spend my time, what is important to me. That is something I put on the back burner for a long time as I was a big people pleaser. I also write a lot of things down and post them where I can see them. </p><p></p><p>I believe changing myself and working on myself is a spiritual process. All of the things above are my tools. It is definitely a process. But I believe that using the tools mindfully and deliberately every single day is a must for change. I am committed to changing myself into a healthier person who stays out of other people's business, is more honest, is less judgmental and who is working to be a plus in the lives of myself and other people, instead of a minus. </p><p></p><p>I also believe that garbage in, garbage out. That is why I read and write a lot. It is reinforcing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 622942, member: 17542"] BITS, every day I spend at least an hour on my own recovery. That is how I think of it. It's like part of my daily job. For me that means, going to an Al-Anon meeting, reading books, Al-anon or otherwise, posting/reading here. My blog for Lent has turned into another spiritual tool for me---getting rid of 40 things a day for 40 days. I also exercise. I do run (I'm slow!) and I do yoga, and weight lifting (two days a week) and work in the yard. Right now I'm doing a 7-part marathon here in my town, centered around coffee shops, and SO and I have been walking each "leg"---they all total 26.2 miles. We've done it over two months. I go to church, and I try to do things for other people. I'm in grad school (one class at a time!) and I have my own business which keeps me busy. I go on little weekend trips with girlfriends. I am in the process of trying to get together for lunch, dinner, coffee with old friends again---for a long time I isolated because of the pain of difficult child and also the shame and embarrassment. I am very blessed to have a great SO who is also in recovery--he gives me tremendous support and lets me cry when I need to. I did get a sponsor in Al-Anon because I felt at one point I was unloading too much onto SO, and I didn't want our entire relationship to be about my wayward son. I also read a lot of light fiction, take bubble baths every night, try to get a lot of sleep, eat fairly well. I love sweets and that's my downfall! I also am finding that honesty is important for me. I don't mean telling everything to everybody but being more honest with myself, about what I want, how I want to spend my time, what is important to me. That is something I put on the back burner for a long time as I was a big people pleaser. I also write a lot of things down and post them where I can see them. I believe changing myself and working on myself is a spiritual process. All of the things above are my tools. It is definitely a process. But I believe that using the tools mindfully and deliberately every single day is a must for change. I am committed to changing myself into a healthier person who stays out of other people's business, is more honest, is less judgmental and who is working to be a plus in the lives of myself and other people, instead of a minus. I also believe that garbage in, garbage out. That is why I read and write a lot. It is reinforcing. [/QUOTE]
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