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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 622944" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>Great questions! I too have chronic health problems that are worsened with stress...I suppose most all are! In my case, one day instead of turning away from my Higher Power in anger because of having a difficult child, I did the opposite and said that it was too much for me and I give it all back to "Him." I surrendered. Hope that makes sense.</p><p></p><p>I can't remember the order of your questions...but can get most, if not all of them answered (I think).</p><p></p><p>My husband and I kept our relationship together by going on date nights at least every other week. We also took a vacation once a year, sometimes twice a year. Sometimes, they were just for the weekend. Often it took a lot of planning. We also had to go to counseling here and there...not for typical reasons, like fear of a break up. We wanted to go to coordinate how we would "parent" our difficult child. Since she is a bit older now, these things aren't as critical, but we still vacation and go out, etc.</p><p></p><p>I pampered myself with getting my nails done regularly and an occasional massage. I also love to read. It is a distraction. Sometimes when difficult child was really being difficult, I found myself ordering a lot of books!!! I have two very close girlfriends that I call when difficult child is being VERY difficult, but I have learned not to call too much, as it can get wearisome for everybody and anybody to constantly hear about her incredibly foolish and scary behaviors.</p><p></p><p>Spiritually, I like to watch Joel Osteen on TV, since he is very positive and uplifting. I also like to read AA literature, even though I don't drink at all. I just think their literature is very empowering. I went to a few Families Anon. ,tgs. And thought they were great...but didn't continue as most discussions were about drugs, and fortunately difficult child isn't into drugs...it is mostly her mental illness and poor decision making that causes stress.</p><p></p><p>I use to read everything I could get my hands on about mental illness in order to understand my difficult child. So.....one day I decided to get a masters degree in a related field and I completed that a few years ago.</p><p></p><p>Now, I'm considering writing a book on personality disorders (not difficult child's diagnosis).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 622944, member: 4152"] Great questions! I too have chronic health problems that are worsened with stress...I suppose most all are! In my case, one day instead of turning away from my Higher Power in anger because of having a difficult child, I did the opposite and said that it was too much for me and I give it all back to "Him." I surrendered. Hope that makes sense. I can't remember the order of your questions...but can get most, if not all of them answered (I think). My husband and I kept our relationship together by going on date nights at least every other week. We also took a vacation once a year, sometimes twice a year. Sometimes, they were just for the weekend. Often it took a lot of planning. We also had to go to counseling here and there...not for typical reasons, like fear of a break up. We wanted to go to coordinate how we would "parent" our difficult child. Since she is a bit older now, these things aren't as critical, but we still vacation and go out, etc. I pampered myself with getting my nails done regularly and an occasional massage. I also love to read. It is a distraction. Sometimes when difficult child was really being difficult, I found myself ordering a lot of books!!! I have two very close girlfriends that I call when difficult child is being VERY difficult, but I have learned not to call too much, as it can get wearisome for everybody and anybody to constantly hear about her incredibly foolish and scary behaviors. Spiritually, I like to watch Joel Osteen on TV, since he is very positive and uplifting. I also like to read AA literature, even though I don't drink at all. I just think their literature is very empowering. I went to a few Families Anon. ,tgs. And thought they were great...but didn't continue as most discussions were about drugs, and fortunately difficult child isn't into drugs...it is mostly her mental illness and poor decision making that causes stress. I use to read everything I could get my hands on about mental illness in order to understand my difficult child. So.....one day I decided to get a masters degree in a related field and I completed that a few years ago. Now, I'm considering writing a book on personality disorders (not difficult child's diagnosis). [/QUOTE]
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