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<blockquote data-quote="Kalahou" data-source="post: 713265" data-attributes="member: 19617"><p>Dear Leafy,</p><p>I know you so love your mo’opuna, and what a very special impact their time with you will have on their tender hearts and memories. However, I also relate to the big drain it will be on your time and energies, and the disappointments you will see also, as well as the joys that shine through now and then. It’s good to have your son and Hoku (is she still with you?) to help out with mo’opuna’s care and supervision: that is a big <em>ohana ke kōkua</em> for you all. .</p><p></p><p>I try to keep my younger "grands" ~ Difficult Child son’s 2 children (ages 6 and 10) several days per month. I just let them go back home today, after having them for 8 days during the school break. (I am glad to come back to work to rest and get strong again.) While I do love for the kids to stay with us just to enjoy being with them ourselves, part of the idea for them to visit us so regularly was partly also so that their father (Difficult Child son) could see them (as our house is the only place he can meet with them.) But that very rarely happens now. It seems the longer my son is away from not seeing his kids; he gets used to no contact with them, and apparently and sadly is losing interest. I feel bad for the kids sometimes.</p><p></p><p>For some reason, I feel that for me to accommodate the children in my home as much as possible, is to help maintain for them some semblance of a connection to their father (who they rarely connect with anymore.) I keep thinking / hoping / praying ( <em>all the same old</em> ) that perhaps if son ever does get it together, some bond or connection with the children will still be in place to build on (?)</p><p></p><p>Savor your moments with your “grands” this summer, dear Tita. Take care of yourself and do not get worn out. All we can do is try to be a positive presence, influence and support in their lives while they are with us, and in our circle of impact. Sometimes a moment in time can change a child’s life. I pray for them and for you that whatever is needful to be a blessing to each other will blossom during this time. Bless and <em>malama pono</em>.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kalahou, post: 713265, member: 19617"] Dear Leafy, I know you so love your mo’opuna, and what a very special impact their time with you will have on their tender hearts and memories. However, I also relate to the big drain it will be on your time and energies, and the disappointments you will see also, as well as the joys that shine through now and then. It’s good to have your son and Hoku (is she still with you?) to help out with mo’opuna’s care and supervision: that is a big [I]ohana ke kōkua[/I] for you all. . I try to keep my younger "grands" ~ Difficult Child son’s 2 children (ages 6 and 10) several days per month. I just let them go back home today, after having them for 8 days during the school break. (I am glad to come back to work to rest and get strong again.) While I do love for the kids to stay with us just to enjoy being with them ourselves, part of the idea for them to visit us so regularly was partly also so that their father (Difficult Child son) could see them (as our house is the only place he can meet with them.) But that very rarely happens now. It seems the longer my son is away from not seeing his kids; he gets used to no contact with them, and apparently and sadly is losing interest. I feel bad for the kids sometimes. For some reason, I feel that for me to accommodate the children in my home as much as possible, is to help maintain for them some semblance of a connection to their father (who they rarely connect with anymore.) I keep thinking / hoping / praying ( [I]all the same old[/I] ) that perhaps if son ever does get it together, some bond or connection with the children will still be in place to build on (?) Savor your moments with your “grands” this summer, dear Tita. Take care of yourself and do not get worn out. All we can do is try to be a positive presence, influence and support in their lives while they are with us, and in our circle of impact. Sometimes a moment in time can change a child’s life. I pray for them and for you that whatever is needful to be a blessing to each other will blossom during this time. Bless and [I]malama pono[/I]. [/QUOTE]
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