I need somewhere to put my thoughs, just to get them out, leave them and be able to move on. My now 11 difficult child was sexually abused by her best friend's brother the week before Christmas and life has been a roller coaster ever since. She has never connected with a therapist over the years and we have had many, and have been fortunate she has made so much "progress." I was begining to think there was light at the end of the tunnel. Nearly a year without violent outbreaks and abuse. Now this. We have just begun victim therapy but it's not going so well. I can get her there, but... explosive meltdowns and violent behaviors are not allowing therapy. Since the incident, she is having seperation issues, where she is terrified to be without me but it depends on where we are and what the situation is. Last night the therapist wanted a few minutes with me before she sat with difficult child and WOW I could have never anticipated what happened next. She stormed out of the building and proceeded to kick the door, punch the window and scream on top of her lungs outside the building, mind you on a very busy street. The therapist held the "session" with me in the hall so we could keep an eye on her. I needed to be there whether difficult child wanted to or not. Well victim therapist said, I can not treat her until she is stable. The problem, I, nor the many doctors seem to be unable to stablize her. I left feeling so defeated. What do I do now? I've read all the recommended books, continue to do behavior modification, she is in a behavioral school and pick my battles. I've looked into residential but because of her age, she doesn't qualify until she is 16! What children younger don't have issues?! I am completely exhausted, frustrated, desperate and clueless. I am the type of person that wants to fix things, I can not fix my difficult child. I know this, but I was at least hoping like could be manageable. Mind you, I can't even begin to tell you the disruption this has had with sometimes husband and easy child. What to do???