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<blockquote data-quote="HeadlightsMom" data-source="post: 682544" data-attributes="member: 18284"><p><strong>Everyone</strong> -- I enjoyed reading all of your comments. And, yes...........Isn't "Leafy's" mosaic phenomenal? Love it!</p><p></p><p><strong>Pasajes4</strong> -- Thank you. You touch my heart this morning. I have noted your "strong voice" in posts and thoroughly appreciate it!</p><p></p><p><strong>Albatross</strong> -- Yep. Cried last night, awaken more refreshed this morning. Tears are cleansing -- no matter what the catalyst.</p><p></p><p><strong>so ready to live</strong> -- I totally understand your first comment about "messages". It took us years (and years) to get to that point. It's just been the last 2 years or so that we've been there. A life-threatening event happened with our son and when we eventually talked about it (and made sure we were both in a good frame of mind to be receptive to hearing each other), we made a pact. Our pact was that if things get bad between us (which they have - often), we would just choose another day (soon - usually within days). to try contact again. </p><p></p><p>As he's now had 2 distinct brushes with death, he became more receptive to that -- and so did we. And, perhaps surprisingly, we have both kept our pact to this day. I don't ask, he doesn't tell. Besides, he knows I don't really have to ask........we pretty much know what he's up to (generalities) and he knows that. </p><p></p><p>Yes, at times he has lied to us. And at times we've bought into his lies. But we've called him on it when we know. It's a funny thing about words......at least in our scenario, if we don't scream, neither does he. I'm pretty expressive, so I really had to learn to take it down a notch. Our relationship got better when I took my tone down. HIS behaviors are HIS responsibility. MY behaviors are MY responsibility.</p><p></p><p><strong>so ready to live</strong> --- I read and re-read your words. First, I just noted you're newer to this group. Welcome! Second, I sure love all of what you wrote. All of it. I also just noted your son is adopted. So is our son (similar issues). So am I (no similar issues). Adoption is a gift! Even when it's crazy, it's a gift. Your words and heart sound strong and vibrant. I'm thinking, hoping, betting that some day your son will hit graduate to that next level in messages the way you want. It can happen!</p><p></p><p>Signing off now and catch you all on the flip side of our road trip! Take care, everyone! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HeadlightsMom, post: 682544, member: 18284"] [B]Everyone[/B] -- I enjoyed reading all of your comments. And, yes...........Isn't "Leafy's" mosaic phenomenal? Love it! [B]Pasajes4[/B] -- Thank you. You touch my heart this morning. I have noted your "strong voice" in posts and thoroughly appreciate it! [B]Albatross[/B] -- Yep. Cried last night, awaken more refreshed this morning. Tears are cleansing -- no matter what the catalyst. [B]so ready to live[/B] -- I totally understand your first comment about "messages". It took us years (and years) to get to that point. It's just been the last 2 years or so that we've been there. A life-threatening event happened with our son and when we eventually talked about it (and made sure we were both in a good frame of mind to be receptive to hearing each other), we made a pact. Our pact was that if things get bad between us (which they have - often), we would just choose another day (soon - usually within days). to try contact again. As he's now had 2 distinct brushes with death, he became more receptive to that -- and so did we. And, perhaps surprisingly, we have both kept our pact to this day. I don't ask, he doesn't tell. Besides, he knows I don't really have to ask........we pretty much know what he's up to (generalities) and he knows that. Yes, at times he has lied to us. And at times we've bought into his lies. But we've called him on it when we know. It's a funny thing about words......at least in our scenario, if we don't scream, neither does he. I'm pretty expressive, so I really had to learn to take it down a notch. Our relationship got better when I took my tone down. HIS behaviors are HIS responsibility. MY behaviors are MY responsibility. [B]so ready to live[/B] --- I read and re-read your words. First, I just noted you're newer to this group. Welcome! Second, I sure love all of what you wrote. All of it. I also just noted your son is adopted. So is our son (similar issues). So am I (no similar issues). Adoption is a gift! Even when it's crazy, it's a gift. Your words and heart sound strong and vibrant. I'm thinking, hoping, betting that some day your son will hit graduate to that next level in messages the way you want. It can happen! Signing off now and catch you all on the flip side of our road trip! Take care, everyone! :) [/QUOTE]
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