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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 710369" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>It's hard because addicts lie so you never know if you are enabling or helping. My daughter would swear she was sober and working the steps and we would find out that she was really drugging/drinking.</p><p></p><p>So we finally said enough and stopped helping since we couldn't trust her to tell us the truth. When we stopped helping, she got sober and has just celebrated a year of sobriety and is working and taking care of herself. Coincidence? I don't know but we are finally free financially and looking towards retirement.</p><p></p><p>At some point, and everyone gets there at different times, you have to stop helping them financially. Since they certainly won't be the ones to suggest it, it will come down to when you have the strength to do it. Most people need help of support groups or therapy to be able to say enough is enough.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 710369, member: 1967"] It's hard because addicts lie so you never know if you are enabling or helping. My daughter would swear she was sober and working the steps and we would find out that she was really drugging/drinking. So we finally said enough and stopped helping since we couldn't trust her to tell us the truth. When we stopped helping, she got sober and has just celebrated a year of sobriety and is working and taking care of herself. Coincidence? I don't know but we are finally free financially and looking towards retirement. At some point, and everyone gets there at different times, you have to stop helping them financially. Since they certainly won't be the ones to suggest it, it will come down to when you have the strength to do it. Most people need help of support groups or therapy to be able to say enough is enough. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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