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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 654648" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi again Firehorsewoman. </p><p></p><p>I SO agree with you. </p><p></p><p>Questions/thoughts: Could intensive psychotherapy not be an adjunct to boarding school? </p><p></p><p>I understand your son may not WANT boarding school but is well-aware of the havoc (collaterol damage) he is causing in the family. He may not be in control, or (yet) have the tools to change...but do you not think he is aware? </p><p></p><p>What about laying it out for him...(perhaps in a therapeutic context) like any other situation that needs a solution. Such as, you are doing great in school...however.... family life needs to be xxx and xxx. These are our options. </p><p></p><p>It is not only a question of what he wants or does not want. We know this. He seems to be tyrannizing everybody when HE is unhappy with a given situation. Is there some kind of family conversation that is going on that HE is involved in, that is not just about him but WITH him? Really, he seems to have strengths that are not being called upon. </p><p></p><p>I will go back and read some of the other responses but it seems like others, too, have the visceral reaction to his being sacrificed to save the family. There is something very (can I say) impressive about him, that amidst all of the drama he is involved in, he can be serenely and productively functioning in school. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/angel.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":angel:" title="angel :angel:" data-shortname=":angel:" /> Or, can the situation be viewed another way? Perhaps he is the VOICE of the family? </p><p></p><p>I don't know why but I am identifying with this young man. So maybe you need to read everything I have written through that lens. Copa</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 654648, member: 18958"] Hi again Firehorsewoman. I SO agree with you. Questions/thoughts: Could intensive psychotherapy not be an adjunct to boarding school? I understand your son may not WANT boarding school but is well-aware of the havoc (collaterol damage) he is causing in the family. He may not be in control, or (yet) have the tools to change...but do you not think he is aware? What about laying it out for him...(perhaps in a therapeutic context) like any other situation that needs a solution. Such as, you are doing great in school...however.... family life needs to be xxx and xxx. These are our options. It is not only a question of what he wants or does not want. We know this. He seems to be tyrannizing everybody when HE is unhappy with a given situation. Is there some kind of family conversation that is going on that HE is involved in, that is not just about him but WITH him? Really, he seems to have strengths that are not being called upon. I will go back and read some of the other responses but it seems like others, too, have the visceral reaction to his being sacrificed to save the family. There is something very (can I say) impressive about him, that amidst all of the drama he is involved in, he can be serenely and productively functioning in school. :angel: Or, can the situation be viewed another way? Perhaps he is the VOICE of the family? I don't know why but I am identifying with this young man. So maybe you need to read everything I have written through that lens. Copa [/QUOTE]
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