I just got a response from my mother regarding that email I sent her a couple of days ago. In summary, she says these things: 1) She's the one with an education in clinical psychiatric so I shouldn't be telling her what her issues are 2) Her call to me on Sun was the "result of having a full-blown anxiety attack" that, she says, she believes was justified because it occurred after months of not hearing from difficult child and her being so worried about me being so secretive about him that she is having nightmares over it. (The only things I have not told her are what his last offense was and the name/address of the facility he is in.) 3) If he writes her, she will respond, even if the correspondence has to go thru me, because after all (she says) all visits and correspondence have always gone thru me. (That makes no sense to me- I was raising him- how could visits out of state be planned without my involvement? I never made any issue about my mother and difficult child writing or talking on the phone and did not "screen" them or anything. The things I fussed at her and my bro over were things I brought up in court and the people in court were in agreement that the family was out of line and said I should monitor and supervise it.) I'm just writing this to get it off my chest. I'm not going to get caught up in the drama of it all. I wish she would see at some point that her nightmares and anxiety attacks are not "caused" by me and not my responsibility and that instead of blaming me when she has them, justifying calls to stir up carp, she would be better off to seek help from a prof for them. But I am fully aware that I cannot make her see that. This is where, though, I think things get so twisted in her mind. If someone abused her, it coud cause anxiety like that. But in her case, she has always suffered from panic attacks and so forth and then claimed a person treated her horribly, to seek attention and pity and retaliation for not getting her way and to excuse herself for not seeking appropriate therapuetic help- other than medications. If I have not seen her or verbally assulted her, etc, how could I cause her to have PTSD symptoms? This has happened so many times in the past over so many different things that I can't believe it still makes me defensive. LOL!