Results of the Meeting

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by DaisyFace, Dec 15, 2011.

  1. DaisyFace

    DaisyFace Love me...Love me not

    The meeting was not what I expected. I figured it would be about 30 minutes with the team - and I was afraid I wasn't going to be able to get all my concerns I had typed up several pages of notes and events in an easy-to-read and take-a copy-with-you-for-the-file format listing all the garbage we've been dealing with.

    Instead, supervisor contacted Behavior Therapist and therapist and specifically told them NOT to attend.

    So the meeting was just supervisor and me.

    And we spent more than TWO HOURS just going over everything. The supervisor seemed to really listen, and she made a ton of notes and cross-referenced some of the things I was reporting with notes that she had reviewed in the file. At one point, she actually THANKED me for being honest - which made me wonder what kinds of parents she usually deals that was interesting.

    Bottom line - supervisor agrees that Behavior Therapist has been waaaaayyyy out of bounds on a lot of these issues. But - instead of just "dropping" this therapist....supervisor wants to "transition" from one therapist to another to make things easier on difficult child and the family.

    So that's a good sign that the supervisor understands the turmoil these changes can cause with families and difficult children.

    She also promised to "recommend" respite that next time there is a fight that results in difficult child heading out the door (or being pushed out the door as the case may be), there will be a foster home lined up where she can spend a few days.

    Whether this will actually happen? Gosh, I've asked for respite so many times...and it's never come through before...

    I'm afraid to get my hopes up that anything of significance will really happen.

    Instead, I expect to hear a song and dance about budgets, and waiting lists, and yadda, yadda, yada so respite is just not available....and to have this Behavior Therapist replaced with someone equally naive and equally clueless.

    But - I guess we will wait and see...
  2. buddy

    buddy New Member

    happy to hear she listened. I am actually so impressed she held them off...there could have been a lot of defensiveness, etc. This way was really good it seems. Now as you say, to see what actually comes from it!

    Nice work being so prepared. Have a more relaxing day
  3. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip


    You got listened to?

    Holy schmoly guacamole... That's seriously a START at least!

    I know how you feel about actually getting services, but... It's a start...
  4. klmno

    klmno Active Member

    This is great news! Now I wouldn't be surprised if she wants to gradually transition to a new counselor because she has to find one available, but still, I'd be gratefule if I could find someone in the system I didn't have to pay for (ie, attny) who would take an honest look at my concerns.
  5. Bunny

    Bunny Guest

    I sometimes think that having someone actually listen to your concerns is half the battle! I'm glad that your concerns were heard. I hope that everything else falls into place, like respite. That would be great.
  6. cubsgirl

    cubsgirl Well-Known Member

    I'm glad that someone took the time to sit down and actually listen to you and your concerns. I hope you can get respite (and soon).
  7. JJJ

    JJJ Active Member

    Wow....far better than expected. Let's hope she follows through.