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<blockquote data-quote="Rina" data-source="post: 678945" data-attributes="member: 18848"><p>Thank you for the replies. I've spent the past few hours researching outpatient programs and reading articles about lasting recovery from heroin addiction. While reading your replies, it suddenly occurred to me that I didn't google anything about older children's attachment to adoptive parents... I don't want to read what I think it'll say.</p><p></p><p>We have one other child, a daughter adopted from Ethiopia at 1 years old. She's the exact opposite, very attached and considers us nothing but her family. We started out absolutely set on adopting only older children from Eastern Europe (we believed that a child who looks like us will have an easier time feeling that they belong), but then backed out and looked elswhere. We didn't think about attachment either. It seemed very clear and obvious... all children want parents. We will be this child's parents. Win-win. It never occurred to either of us that he might not see it this way.</p><p></p><p>I'm really tired of constantly thinking about whether he'll stay clean or not, whether he'll leave or not. Replaying memories from his childhood in my head and trying to figure out what went wrong. Will he ever really look back and know that we love him.</p><p>I'm going to try and force myself to go to sleep. Again, thank you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Rina, post: 678945, member: 18848"] Thank you for the replies. I've spent the past few hours researching outpatient programs and reading articles about lasting recovery from heroin addiction. While reading your replies, it suddenly occurred to me that I didn't google anything about older children's attachment to adoptive parents... I don't want to read what I think it'll say. We have one other child, a daughter adopted from Ethiopia at 1 years old. She's the exact opposite, very attached and considers us nothing but her family. We started out absolutely set on adopting only older children from Eastern Europe (we believed that a child who looks like us will have an easier time feeling that they belong), but then backed out and looked elswhere. We didn't think about attachment either. It seemed very clear and obvious... all children want parents. We will be this child's parents. Win-win. It never occurred to either of us that he might not see it this way. I'm really tired of constantly thinking about whether he'll stay clean or not, whether he'll leave or not. Replaying memories from his childhood in my head and trying to figure out what went wrong. Will he ever really look back and know that we love him. I'm going to try and force myself to go to sleep. Again, thank you. [/QUOTE]
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