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So first they called and said difficult child wanted to talk to me. He talked for 25 minutes, in fact, the phone disconnected and he called back. He was wondering about a pass to go the mall next door to hospital because he took a flyer from the restaurant we went to that said they had a bouncy house, face painting etc. I explained that doctor said only therpeutic passes and explained what that meant... he said ok then asked me about four more times. I gave the same answer hoping he wouldn't blow. Then he asked about Halloween, knew that was gonna be an issue.. I again said maybe not since it is not therapy. He got a little upset but I said we will talk to dr. on Monday (I am wondering since his therapeutic hb riding teacher said she would let him go on horseback if we can swing it but wont tell difficult child that!)... I told him we can have a plan B and his cousins can get him candy, he said no he wanted to go. I said I was sure they would do something there too. (he would hate to miss a party so if they say they are having a party it will be fine) . He asked for hair paint (green is his obsessive color) and for a costume but NOT from the thrift store (one of his blow ups was that I said we have to be careful with money and we can look at the thrift store, he remembers we found a nascar outfit at party city one year and is locked in on that). Oh my, it was an exhausting conversation....
Then he said, you know I like it here. I said I know. I said but kids can't live there. So we have to think about the fun things you like at home too. Your friends really miss you. He said, but if I play with them you can't watch. I said that is not happening because people are a little nervous now after you threw rocks and hit. They understand but want mommy to protect you (and them-didn't say that). I had to be honest because he will throw a fit if I say I wont watch every second then do it. He said, well I will just run awayto the bushes again and then I can come back here. I KNEW he was gonna say that at some point. He said this is what happens when kids go home and are bad. I said, well no, the kids who come back are coming back because they are still working on the medicine they take. That is not a place for "bad" kids it is for kids who are sick and their medications are not working so they need help so they can control their behaviors. He said well the ambulance will just come again, I said no...not if it is not for medicine reasons. And the doctor says your medicine is good now(huge lie again, sorry guys). I am trying to head off any learned behavior here. Lord help us.
so nurse gets on and says well....he is REALLY hyper. (really? remember they are doing the medication test, no medications for a few hours) She was not complaining just verifying what we expected. She said transitions between activities are the WORST, same as at school. Same as at home, that's why I can't say if you dont behave we wont go...we would go NOWHERE. I always know he will calm down (my sister times it and laughs because it is so predictable). Our family accepts it is part of him. we do all the prep stuff and that does help but the movement of going from a to b is still an issue.
He grabbed their computer screen and turned it which pulls wires out...imagine all that medication. data! so he had to go to room for 10 and he said sorry etc. He is doing cartwheels down the hall, yelling that he is hyper etc. I dont think he knows he didn't get them because he takes them in one big handful (his routine, again, I know not too good) but he might know. I have never heard him call himself hyper before...have a feeling it is a new word from there. I dont use it much, certainly not around him. Usually say he needs to be calmer, go to green etc. I think this shift is going to be REALLY happy half hour after they give the concerta.
They are going to call after the end of the test...will update later. so much for my nap.
Then he said, you know I like it here. I said I know. I said but kids can't live there. So we have to think about the fun things you like at home too. Your friends really miss you. He said, but if I play with them you can't watch. I said that is not happening because people are a little nervous now after you threw rocks and hit. They understand but want mommy to protect you (and them-didn't say that). I had to be honest because he will throw a fit if I say I wont watch every second then do it. He said, well I will just run awayto the bushes again and then I can come back here. I KNEW he was gonna say that at some point. He said this is what happens when kids go home and are bad. I said, well no, the kids who come back are coming back because they are still working on the medicine they take. That is not a place for "bad" kids it is for kids who are sick and their medications are not working so they need help so they can control their behaviors. He said well the ambulance will just come again, I said no...not if it is not for medicine reasons. And the doctor says your medicine is good now(huge lie again, sorry guys). I am trying to head off any learned behavior here. Lord help us.
so nurse gets on and says well....he is REALLY hyper. (really? remember they are doing the medication test, no medications for a few hours) She was not complaining just verifying what we expected. She said transitions between activities are the WORST, same as at school. Same as at home, that's why I can't say if you dont behave we wont go...we would go NOWHERE. I always know he will calm down (my sister times it and laughs because it is so predictable). Our family accepts it is part of him. we do all the prep stuff and that does help but the movement of going from a to b is still an issue.
He grabbed their computer screen and turned it which pulls wires out...imagine all that medication. data! so he had to go to room for 10 and he said sorry etc. He is doing cartwheels down the hall, yelling that he is hyper etc. I dont think he knows he didn't get them because he takes them in one big handful (his routine, again, I know not too good) but he might know. I have never heard him call himself hyper before...have a feeling it is a new word from there. I dont use it much, certainly not around him. Usually say he needs to be calmer, go to green etc. I think this shift is going to be REALLY happy half hour after they give the concerta.
They are going to call after the end of the test...will update later. so much for my nap.
